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Trying to enjoy my day off....

I love dogs's picture

But SD and summer break happened. I took my dogs for a less than 30 minute walk this early afternoon and SD is dressed and trying to walk toward the door when I come back in. "Can you take me to my mom's? I just want to talk to her." I say "your mom is not home so you just want to hang out with your grandma?" She says yes. And then adds that "my dad said that you have to take me to the art thing at his aunt's at 4pm." I say "if you're going to you mom's, you're staying there until your dad gets off of work because I have plans at 4:30." I tell her to give me her phone so that I can call her dad.

DH told her to ASK me if I'd take her and her friend to his aunt's house at 4 to draw. I was not asked one damn thing from SD. She is all pouty and acting like she's being abused. I go through her texts to BM and GBM because I pay for the damn thing. She is telling hem how BORING it is here (I am using MY laptop to get work done) and that she just wants to go home. BM says "that's not right, she left you alone AGAIN (to walk the dogs, mind you- I always ask SD to go but she is always too lazy) and I think you need to stay with GBM this week."

Fine, BM, keep your spoiled brat daughter. I don't want her sulking around my house. Let GBM cater to her and make her food even though we have food here and SD refuses to raise a finger. She can find another ride to the damn art event and maybe ASK me next time. I'll let DH deal with this sh!t and enjoy going to the gym IN PEACE!

I dropped her off at BM's because it's less than 5 minutes away and made sure she got inside. I waved GOODBYE to GBM from my truck and got the hell out of there. Oh yeah, GBM told SD to have me take her out to lunch or a movie because she is so bored! Good luck with that. I am actually WORKING today and don't have time for the little snot to treat me like I owe her something. SD doesn't say anything to me unless it will benefit her. Not good morning, nothing. Have a good day, brat!

DH even said that she is playing sides and she can stay at BM's if it's going to be like that. I warned him that SD said I left her alone (for 20 minutes) and BM will probably gripe about that, even though SD is perfectly fine being left alone for up to 3 hours when she has the precious laptop. She is still signed into Skype on my laptop, by the way. As soon as I get home, she is IMing her girlfriend and is perfectly happy to have her way. DH is going to "talk" to BM about it but I doubt BM sees the manipulations. 

Also, we bought SD her OWN mini laptop for her birthday almost 2 years ago. We haven't see it since. Why can't she bring it over here if she needs it as a life line? Maybe, just maybe, BM will let her decided that 50% isn't working and she can continue to be BM's problem. DH claims he is sick of her attitude, but he usually just gripes at her when she is annoying him instead of being a parent most of the time.

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Siemprematahari's picture

Good for you! Next time make sure your H is home when she's over that way he can entertain her. Enjoy your day off I love dogs!!!

I love dogs's picture

I did tell him that when we were arguing on Sunday but felt bad and told him she can just stay here so he doesn't have to go back and forth to BM's. At this point, I honestly don't give a damn what she does. As I said, I am using MY laptop and venting here on ST because I am so annoyed right now! I am waiting on my replacement phone in the mail any day now and SD can't survive on her own phone. I am actually receiving her Skype messages to her friend right now and they are so happy talking now that SD is free at BM's. She is totally nice to everyone else and treats me like a second class citizen. No thank you, ma'am. 

momjeans's picture

Stay strong, I love dogs. You’re doing good. Keep reminding yourself “Not my circus, not my monkeys.”

I love dogs's picture

I surely am and I am happy to use MY laptop in peace. We bought SD a perfectly fine mini laptop that is never used at BM's and has never been brought over here. Why can't she bring it here if she's so damn bored? Oh yeah, she's too busy getting SUPER GLUE on mine.

queensway's picture

SD is a devious little thing. How dare you take your dogs for a walk. Poor little darling being all bored. The best part about all this is you are so on to her.

I love dogs's picture

I told her straight up that if she has an issue with what we are doing, she needs to not go behind DH's and my back to tattle to BM and GBM but I know it'll never stop and actions can meet consequence. No art party with your friend tonight, SD. And I'm glad that DH even said that she is playing sides.

I love dogs's picture

If I'd have let her commandeer MY laptop like she normally does, she'd be happily locked up in her room Skyping her friend. Too bad. You rat on me for no good reason, you can go back to mommy's!

Harry's picture

so let her go.  I would not buy her anything, do anything for her, or take her anyplace  from now on. If SO want to see her then he should be home with her, or go someplace with her.  I would turn her room into something else 

I love dogs's picture

I honestly don't want anything to do with the brat from now on. If she stays over here, she can use HER electronics and keep her dirty fingers off of mine. She already got super glue halfway across the screen that DH hasn't fixed yet. I wish I could turn her room into something else but we already have a spare room that is my office/ storage room. DH says he told BM about SD's attitude and playing sides so I'll keep everyone updated.