DP did so good this weekend with SD9.

SD9 refused to eat lunch on Saturday. We were out running errands and DP suggested 3 lunch options to SD9. All of which were do-able.

She said "No. I don't want that" to all three.

So DP ended up getting a bag of carrots at the store, handed them to her and said, "Eat these."

YAY! He got a big kiss for that one. He would have never done this even 6 months ago.

...SD9 also refused a couple lunch options the next day. So guess what, no lunch again. Amazing how that works.

SD11 came home with lunch barely touched. This is after I worked with her on what she wanted. She told her dad a story about some event during lunch time that they weren't allowed to bring their lunches to.
So taking her at her word (the school district here is really bad at keeping a free lunch period for kids) I said I was going to contact the principal about it (I am with an advocacy group to fight the abysmal lunch system).
SD11 pipes up: Actually they let us bring our lunches to the gym.
DP: So you could eat then?
SD11: yes, but no one hardly was.

Due to our schedules, I do help DP get the girls lunch bags together when they are with us, most of the time – but not all of the time. He does dishes most evenings and helps them with breakfast in the mornings (I KNOW THEY SHOULD BE ABLE TO DO THIS THEMSELVES which is why I don’t do breakfast for them at all any longer, unless I want something yummy for myself).

DP was in the habit of closing the car doors for SDs, all the time, when I met him. I finally have mostly got him to STOP doing that for them because they would NEVER close the doors themselves. At 7 & 9 they were old enough to do so.

SD9 now pretty much does it herself with little prompting.
SD11? Not so much. I have to remind her 98% of the time if I am driving with her.