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Clothing Deflection...

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Submitted by Cover1W on Thu, 09/03/2015 - 11:04am

This school year it's been made clear that I will not pay anything towards SDs clothing.
It gets lost (at BMs), grown out of (because SD11 will not tolerate anything even a tiny bit too big so it may last 6 months before she grows out of it, instead it takes a couple months and it doesn't fit any longer - at least SD9 can have some of her clothes, but still!), refuse to wear.
I'll buy one or two things if I feel like it but so far I haven't.

So Glad

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Submitted by Cover1W on Sun, 08/30/2015 - 6:34pm

I am out of anything to do with SD11 right now. She's being an utter bitch to everyone; entitled, spoiled, smart mouth. My parents are here and told me, "DP really needs to parent her or he is in trouble..." Yes, I know. I had to stop them from helping clean things up...don't move that, put that down, don't clean that dish...LOL. They totally get it now after three days.

Disengage, Part II

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Submitted by Cover1W on Thu, 08/27/2015 - 11:46am

I am full on into my disengagement practice. For those who have questions about how it works, here are some day-to-day examples.

* Still haven't washed SDs linens (since May). SD9 quilt filthy. Both carpets filthy. SD11, food bowls in room (not supposed to have food in her room). Ignored. DP mentioned he was going to get on this today. But I don't hold my breath.

Last Week

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Submitted by Cover1W on Sun, 08/23/2015 - 8:02pm

Last week before school starts. SDs arrive tomorrow. SD11 will be going to mide school near us, with a bus stop just down the street. SD9 will be at her usual school a ways away. And me? I am done helping!!! I finished SD11 dresser she was supposed to be repainting (I think she was angling for a new one instead...cut that one off at the knees!). I still haven't washed their sheets (this is up to DP) since May. I didn't buy any SD friendly food at store yesterday. I will not drive SD9 to school unless there is a legitimate need, not just because DP doesn't feel like it.

Grocery bill

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Submitted by Cover1W on Thu, 08/20/2015 - 9:26pm

OMG. I just added up my grocery costs for last two months. I was wondering why I was falling short well before the end of each month! This is going to be fixed. No way am I paying that much plus part of the utilities (not including the mortgage).

I think it's because DP isn't going to pick up girls from school and stopping by store on way home. So I took over the shopping this summer. Hard stop. Immediately!

Family Time

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Submitted by Cover1W on Sat, 08/08/2015 - 8:40pm

Visiting DPs extended family. DP left sooner I met up with them a few days later.
Had a nice late evening after arriving; SDs were asleep so we were able to get caught up. Next day SD9 is sick as a dog all day. We were driving up 4 hrs to the family cabin. Since we had to stop at restaurant I took SD9 to throw up, DP kept her solaced in car. Ok fine.

It's a learning curve

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Submitted by Cover1W on Sun, 08/02/2015 - 11:55pm

...it gets easier. To say it straight.

This morning, while making coffee, DP says to me "I need to do something about SD11 being online so much."
I have heard this sooooooo many times now.
Me, as I keep doing what I am doing, "well you know what you need to do, and I cannot have a part in it. It's up to you."
DP, "Don't try to make me feel inept!"
Me...WTF?? "I am not doing that, it's just that you have the power to do it, not me. If you want her to be on electronics less then do it."
DP, sigh. Then proceeds to do nothing.

Toilets and bedroom!

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Submitted by Cover1W on Fri, 07/31/2015 - 9:18am

Yesterday I noticed SD9 hadn't flushed AGAIN. Told DP to take care of it. We are having many visitors in August and this will NOT continue. He did nothing. So fine. 30 min later I ask SD9 to come downstairs (her friend was over) and stood there while she flushed. Let her know she HAS to do this every time. This is my breaking point and I'm damn well going to engage in this one.

To Do...

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Submitted by Cover1W on Tue, 07/28/2015 - 6:36pm

DP has quite a lot on his plate. Most of this is his idea..

* Have SDs strip the sheets off their beds so HE can wash them. He was shocked, *shocked* to hear that they hadn't been washed since we moved in the end of May. I won't touch them.

* Help SD11 finish painting her dresser that's half done in the garage as a father/daughter joint effort. I told him if it wasn't out by the end of August I will get rid of it. It was her idea, she needs to finish it.

* Don't let girls "sleep in" until 11:30 a.m.

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