CastleJJ's Blog

OT: Controlling Mothers

I feel like I have been circling the drain lately. DH and I have so much going on between preparing for our baby who is due in 4 months, building a house which is set to close in 5 months, both of us working full time (and overtime), worrying about finances due to all the big changes, and dealing with the dramas of family dynamics, including MIL (as I posted previously) and now my Mother.

SS Parent/Teacher Conferences

So DH had parent/teacher conferences for SS9 tonight. They were conducted via Zoom due to the pandemic, which benefitted DH since we are long distance. DH, BM, and GF were all present for the conference.

Read more about SS Parent/Teacher Conferences
4 comments
Log in or register to post comments

OT More MIL Drama

I have posted about my MIL before. For backstory, MIL met and married FIL and told FIL that she didn't want anymore kids because she already had my two BILs with her ex husband. Well FIL wanted kids so they had DH. MIL told FIL that DH was his responsibility and basically, since she didn't want him, he's not her problem to deal with. MIL and FIL divorced almost 10 years ago. FIL and DH are very close, but DH and MIL barely talk. MIL has always preferred BILs.

We bought a house!

I posted a blog on here a few months back about how stressed I was that we are living in a tiny two bedroom apartment, expecting a new baby, and worried about how SS would react about sharing his room/space with his baby sister. I was also worried about how SS would react about his baby sister in general, since he is on a long distance schedule and the baby would be with us full time. My biggest fear was SS feeling replaced and I figured the lack of space would amplify that feeling.

Is this the start of the next big fight?

So as many of you know, BM enrolls SS9 in sports year round to try to prevent DH from exercising his long distance, 6 week visitation schedule under the guise of SS' "sport obligations." Sports haven't really ever interfered with visitation, except for football in the summer, which has led to several big fights with BM. Generally, SS plays intense, competitive league football 4 days per week plus games every weekend from late July to November, plays recreational basketball from November to February/March, and recreational soccer from March to June.

Read more about Is this the start of the next big fight?
13 comments
Log in or register to post comments

Just need to vent

So as many of you know, our BM is a real peach. When we took BM to court in 2019, BM motioned to have two stipulations added to the CO, both of which were approved by the judge. BM's hill to die on was SS9 not missing football and that was her sole argument through all of court. The first stipulation is that both parents have to notify the other parent if SS9 spends the night anywhere other than that parent's residence. This means literally anywhere; family's houses, friend's houses, vacations, etc.

Feeling Stressed

I am 17 weeks pregnant and DH and I are expecting a little girl in February 2022. When we found out I was pregnant, DH and I sat down and discussed how and when we would tell SS9. We decided, due to the nature of dealing with our HCBM, we would wait to tell SS until we saw him in person for Christmas this year. DH and I felt this would be best because it allows us to control the narrative.

Croup Chronicles

So yesterday, BM and/or GF forwarded DH a copy of SS' COVID test which was negative. We can't tell who actually sent it because it came from BM and GF's joint email account with no message attached and GF has been known to email DH from this account on occasion. DH responded "Thanks for sending the results."

BM wants Kudos

DH got a text from BM at 4 a.m. this morning... SS woke up around 2 a.m. complaining of a sore throat so BM rushed him to the ER. BM sent several more texts between 4 a.m. and 8 a.m. saying that SS was diagnosed with croup, given an inhaler, sent home and is doing better. When DH woke up this morning and received the messages, he just responded "Thank you for keeping me updated. I'm glad to hear SS is improving."

State Testing, Gifted Children, and Pregnancy Update

SS9 just started the fourth grade. Phone calls with him lately have not been very positive. He hates school outside of seeing his friends, gym, and lunch/recess because he says he knows all the classroom material and is bored out of his mind. He also told DH that he is hating football, which is ironic since BM fought tooth and nail in court to prevent parenting time (and won) due to SS' love of football.

Read more about State Testing, Gifted Children, and Pregnancy Update
14 comments
Log in or register to post comments

You are here

CastleJJ's Blog

Pages