Is this the start of the next big fight?
So as many of you know, BM enrolls SS9 in sports year round to try to prevent DH from exercising his long distance, 6 week visitation schedule under the guise of SS' "sport obligations." Sports haven't really ever interfered with visitation, except for football in the summer, which has led to several big fights with BM. Generally, SS plays intense, competitive league football 4 days per week plus games every weekend from late July to November, plays recreational basketball from November to February/March, and recreational soccer from March to June. This kid never stops which SS has admitted is not his choice.
A few weeks back, BM's GF emailed DH letting him know that GF enrolled SS9 in recreational basketball for winter, but that it wasn't competitive, just for fun. DH ignored it because he does not make it a habit to communicate with GF in attempts to discourage her from communicating with him regarding parenting matters/decision making that are between DH and BM. Well tonight, BM emails DH saying that while they (meaning BM and GF) intended for SS to play recreational basketball, the rec center held tryouts for all players and SS made the competitive team. BM said they are allowing SS to make the choice and he chose to play competitively, not recreationally. BM also mentioned that due to SS playing on the competitive team and not the recreational team, preseason tournaments and increased commitments will start in November... why do I have the feeling that this sudden change from a recreational to a "competitive" sport will cause BM to attempt to interfere with our Christmas visitation somehow?
The plus side is that our CO only mandates that DH must be accommodating with summer visitation as it pertains to football. Nowhere in the CO does it say that DH has to be accommodating for all sports obligations, which means that for basketball, soccer, underwater basket weaving, etc., DH does not have to shift his visitation to accomodate those obligations. DH will exercise his visitation as ordered in the CO regardless of what SS' sports have scheduled. DH is prepared for BM to have a total tantrum, but he is standing his ground. We already only see this kid 6 weeks per year due to summer being filled with "mandatory" football, which BM claims is SS' "passion". We aren't giving up or shifting holiday visitation and school breaks too, just to accomodate year round rec sports. DH just responded "Thank you for letting me know," knowing that he will likely have to revisit this topic if BM attempts to interfere with visitation and throws a tantrum for not getting her way.