Ok, I am going to preface by saying I'm not judging anyone. I just have unanswered questions as a former BD/SD, that I want to work through. Heal. I am looking for raw, shameful truths here.
When does not following the CO end I mean BM was the one that took my DH to court in order to get CS and have a CO set in place and now she does not want to follow it however my DH has to follow it. BM thinks that my DH is just a sperm donor and ATM machine. I know my DH isn't the perfect parent and has issues with disciplining his kids however, he is not a doormat for BM either.
I am disengaged from SD21. Have been for the past 4 years. DH re-engaged in February. I do not interfere or interact with her.
Today I filled a bucket in the sink and walked away for a minute. When I remembered it was running, I rushed back in a panic. It overflowed harmlessly into the sink. In our old house, I flooded the kitchen twice last year doing something similar. I was so freaked out, I had a panick attack trying to clean it up before ExH came home and would scream at me.
He did notice the damp spots so I lied to him and said I spilled a bucket so I wouldn’t hear his abuse.
For the most part during the weekend visitation there’s not much of a problem with the kids being in front of the screens too long because we try to get out to the park or do things together.
With summer coming though I want a better plan then last year. Last year we tried to do 15 minutes of something educational = 15 minutes of screen time. Problem is with the then 4 year old this was a nightmare and didn’t work out at all.
So BM grandma sent me, DH, BM Ex-DH and apparently everyone at her church the following message:
I'm so sick of SD weekends and defensive daddy. It is pretty bad when I come to work to relax and unwind from having to deal with the chaos that occurs EVERY time we have SD. Also so sick of SO acting as if SD is the victim all the time and my son is the only problem.
My OSS13 has been fantastic for several months now. At first, my DH and I thought it too good to be true, so we didn’t believe it, and we held our breath for a while. OSS13 seems to ok these days though!
My sister is in the middle of a home rennovation. Her contractor lives next door to my ex MIL. Somehow my sister and the contractor were talking about kids and he told her a story about his neighbor's grandson. Said that this child is a total sociopath and he had never seen an evil child before, but this kid is!
My sister knew that he was talking about my ex SS and cracked up and said I know all about "Bobby" my sister had a short, abusive marriage to his father. The apple didn't fall far from the tree with crazy in that family!
...and I need you to come collect her and take her back to her life of leisure ASAP!
I have a very high stress job... In a small office where it is almost always just the 3 of us. One woman is a micromanaging nightmarish b!tch who I have just come to avoid as best I can in such a small setting. The other just started here two months ago. She is a GUBM of the highest order.