I posted a blog last week about DH finding messages from SS13 to BM and GF, mocking us and DD and the stuff he has at our house. DH handled it really well, not citing that we know about the messages, but setting clear expectations for SS and his demonstration of love, respect, and compassion. 

All things considered, it went well.  Not a ton of drama loaded onto my bride.  Which is fairly unusual when we visit my ILs.

When my DW was driving I noticed she would go to a street past where my BIL1 and his family live in order to avoid driving past their home when we were driving between our hotel and MIL's house.  

This weekend was a roller coaster. Im getting emotional support from a few friends that Ive shared with and my parents.

My friend sent me a series of screen captures from Husband's Facebook post. He states "would you choose your facebook friends over your marriage?" and of course the ensuing comments.

Sunday he threatened to post negative things on facebook so I could spend the whole day (while he was fishing) in fear of what was coming, along with his text "f@ck you b!tch we are done. And now it begins".

I haven't posted in a while but I feel like I'm living in a crazy lala land. My SS11 is here for the weekend me and DH38 have a toddler 2 years old. Our toddler is a hyper playful little boy while SS11 wants to be on phone, iPad and Nintendo all day, but the baby is so excited to see him he wants to play. When my toddler acts out I count to 3 and then there's a consequence, because of this I never get to 3 lol. Yesterday toddler supposedly hit SS11 3 times after the third time he smacked him across his stomach.

WELL, its here, the moment of Truth and Divorce.

Husband is playing a game of Cat and Mouse and revealing himself here and there. 

Apparently his big plan is to get a job as soon as unemployment runs out. And he will work on home improvements and keep track of time and labor, sell the house, divorce me and have a "fresh start". Sometime in the next who-knows.

But he would stay with me if I admit to my wrong-doing, and show him all my phone texts.

I posted a few months ago my frustration with my job and especially my coworker who is my boss's daughter. Well, not only did I get a bonus this month which was another one of my complaints, but my boss called me today to tell me her daughter has quit. I am SO EXCITED. She apparently kind of backstabbed her mom (my boss) because she had no idea she was looking or anything. She also felt like she was unable to take ownership of projects after her one project just ran out and was instead assisting my other coworker and myself.

Need others thoughts on this one if were being over dramtic or something.  My 15 yr old SD lives with us 75% of the time and goes to her moms for all school breaks except thanksgiving.  She is with her mom now they live 11 hrs away.  My SD reposted on Facebook a photo her mom took.  The photo was my SD laying on her stomach next to her stepdad on a bed with her top half laying on the side of his chest . hes on his his back and one arm around her. she was in booty shorts ant a tanktop.  her 18 year old brother is on the other side or the stepdad laying on his side up againt the stepdad.

We leave on Wed night for a long weekend with my ILs to celebrate our nephews HS graduation.

SIL just called my bride. From the second DW answered it was clear that something was up.  SIL was in her pouty sullen voice which is a major tell when she is up to something.

After 30mins of random meandering topical discussion, SIL asked DW if we would go to dinner with her and her girl friend.

SIL is not even divorced from her DH and is trying to pimp her GF to my wife in some kind of begging for approval thing.   DW is flumoxed.

I came across this and LOVE it:

Repeat after me: We do not beg to sit at tables we were not invited to.
We do not chase people who exclude or ignore us. 
We do not seek healing from those who hurt us.
We do not set ourselves on fire to keep others warm.
We create our own circle.
We surround ourselves with only those who truly love, understand, and respect us.
We learn where to express our energy.
We remember our self-worth. 

-Dr. Jessica Taylor 

We spent a week with our son. We have not seen him in a year and a half.  It was great to see him.  There was the occassional spark of him that burned through but overall he is struggling with mental illness.  A very sad thing.