Greetings Steptalkers. 

Without my usual preamble and dry humor that isnt funny, I have some news.

Yesterday in the am (5/19/2025) I was notified via text that a friend of mine who had asked my husband to do some work on her car for her was filing a restraining order and lawsuit against him. We went back and forth and here is the bare bones of what I know and what was said, all between myself and this woman:

- He didnt do the work he said he did, so she didnt pay him and he spent all last week badgering, harrassing and threatening her.

Hi everyone....feeling a lot of feelings these days since I reconnected with my SD, aged 28.  My hubby and I have been together for 15 years, common-in-law, and I feel like I have paid for being with him since day 1.  I love him, he loves me and we most certainly have weathered some storms.

I recently read an article that talked about those age old sayings that kids these days have not heard of or would have people saying it's outdated.  Things like "children should be seen and not heard".. "I will give you something to cry about" etc...

Well, you know what ?  as a kid who was raised with a lot of those nuggets of wisdom.. I am making a case for why moving away from these kinds of things is creating a bunch of people that are increasingly less pleasant to be around.

Here are a few of the ones that stick out for me.. feel free to weigh in on your own.

Good morning everyone,

Hello Steptalk,

In 1998 I noticed a blind spot in my L eye.  Not very big. But noticeable. I mentioned it to my Endocrinologist who gave me a referal to a retinologist.  The retinologist Dx'd it as a Cotton Wool spot, AKA a blood clot in my retina that had denied blood flow to a group of rods and cones which killed those cells leaving the blind spot.  It has improved over the years from a single noticeable sized blind spot breaking up into three very small spots as it healed.

That first happened about 10 days ago.  It took me a day+ plus of CPR to get it working again.  That only lasted about 3 days then it gave up the ghost completely.

I bought the laptop new in 2019 so rather than get a new WiFi card I got a new machine.

I picked up  a new one this AM and spent several hours getting it started up, all of the updates done, and back on line.  I had a couple of Teams interviews and had to function online with just my phone until today.

So, learning the key spacing , etc, on a different size and brand of laptop has commenced.

Dear ST, my beloved husband passed away last night after a tragic bicycle accident (no vehicles involved) on Monday. I cannot begin to describe how I feel.  I will tell you that this site gave me the tools to be with him, to handle his SDs, and to vent freely and get really good feedback. It was invaluable because it gave us 12 years together, not nearly enough.

SD19 and BM were able to say goodby to him on Wednesday. It was a very good thing and BM was nothing but gracious, helpful and supportive of me. SD19 is devestated.

I have mixed feeling about today. Last year we took MIl to breakfast with my SO family. We went to a place where it brought back memories of my Mom and I had to walk out of the restaurant and was crying . I didn't want to be there and celebrate someone else(especially since she is not really a nice person to my SO)But anyway MIL knows I don't want to go to this place. And it is a chain restaurant not some special one. I aM not going but my mixed emotions are that I am sad that MIL won't go somewhere else but I am happy I will not have to see the entitled SKs. 

I get to thinking I'm good without steptalk, maybe I delude myself. I get some moments of quiet. I think my situaton is surely different/better/superior/solved. It isn't. And I've been a crummy listener to everyone else who is reaching out here in my false superiority. For that, I apologize.

BM is dead. deadeadeadead. d. e. a. d. I shared my relief over her passing here. 

It's mothers day tomorrow. My H has taken it upon himself to call and coddle and soothe his 40 year old 'children'.