SDs graduation was last Thursday. Overall the graduation ceremony was good. Typical. It was HOT but better then raining.  

Ceremony ends and we go into the chaos to find SD. Her boyfriend was with us so we knew we would find her first. BM happened to have picked her seats a few rows in front us so we had not a lot of time before she would find SD.

We find her in the maddness... take a picture... at this point BM, her mom  and SS21 find us.

A little note SS21 got there an hour after it started and missed SD walk because "no one told him it was at 4 he thought it was at 5." We left the house at 3 and SO did tell him. Mind you he didn't even attempt to make himself presentable... was in sweat joggers and a tshirt. Naturally went and sat with BM. 

Anyways..

So we say goodbyes to SD and we will see her at the car. While we were walking away... I didn't even hear her, but BMs mom was calling out to SO... she said his name 3 times he heard. Then she tapped him on the back.. 

Now... while the mom is coming for SO and I..SD says "what is she doing going to talk shit?!" BM says no she's not... This plays in later. 

She says to SO "do you hear x is sick?"

BMs brother unfortunately has cancer and he is young with two small kids. The kids told us probably a year ago at this point and SO is friends with the ex SIL on Facebook still.. 

SO says yes he knows..

BMs mom continued to say how "He would love to hear from him... he always talks about him etc etc."

SO just nodded his head and said I'm sorry and we walked away. 

So the whole way back to the car he is clearly upset. When we first found out I told him if he wanted to reach out to him I wouldn't care. He hasn't spoken to him 10+ years. He is about 10 years younger then BM so he was a kid when SO met him and he has been with his wife since they were teenagers. 

Skids have seen them maybe 2 times in the 10 years I've been with SO.. 1 of them beginning their wedding in 2016. The 2nd time I'm not sure if they were even there. BM never tried to connect them in any way..

So I say that I think that BM is using this as an olive branch so SHE can communicate with you. He disagreed. I hold firm with that theory and talked to one of his friends about it and he agrees too. 

So... SD and her bf get in the car. 

SD tells us that while her and her boyfriend were walking away from them.. BM and her mom hunted HER down too.. basically to scold her for saying to BM "what is she doing going to talk shit?" They said how x just always really liked SO blah blah f'n blah. SD was mad. 

BM clearly couldn't even give SO or SD a f'n day where it suppose to be about someone else. It's completely unbelievable. She HAD to throw SD under the bus to her mom right then and there. 

So... we go home and order take out. SO and I go to get it he starts bawling about BMs brother. He said how he's felt so bad and that the mom just tipped him over.

Im ANGRY at this point. How dare this women take any moment that's suppose to be special to one of the kids or SO and ruin it with their attention seeking drama! 

I understand why he feels that way and I just tried consoling him BUT still pointing at the this was a planned attack on him because BM KNEW what her mom was about to do and that wasn't the time or place for ANY OF IT. 

We think BMs marriage may be going under and since she has no one in her life.. no friends... just co people she knows with her husband that she is currently latching on to her mom... who she fights with too. 

Her husband wasn't with her and we haven't seen him since SS21s graduation in 2021. He didn't attend SS20s... not that there would be any other events that we would see him at though. 
 

I just HOPE we are in the clear until SDs college graduation in 4 years, but I have a feeling we aren't....

SD showed me her Tik tok account.. I don't have one... It is probably 30 quotes about narcissism... hilarious because she IS one! 

Also another quick story. 

SD had an IUD put in yesterday. BM and her mom brought that up to her at her pinning ceremony for her CNA (I blogged about that) and how BM should be the one to bring her (BM hasn't gone to the doctors with her since she was little) SD said that it didn't make sense because she lives with SO and he is off.

Well.. like clock work... SD wakes up for anesthesia and has text messages from BMs mom how hurt BM is because SD didn't let her take SD. 

SO and I think she was pushing so hard because it would be a reason for her to come to our house and try to get to SO because it is one of his days off and I'd be at work. Since SD started driving she hasn't come to our house in almost 2 years. No reason since everyone has cars. 

SD didn't say it .... but probably why she didn't let BM either.