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The More I Withdraw, The More SS13 Reaches Out

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I've noticed an interesting pattern lately. The more I withdraw from SS13 and push DH towards more of the parenting, the more SS13 seems to reach out to me.

I've had a non-existent and slightly irritable attitude toward him the past month and have focused more on getting DH to step into the parent role. Now i see SS13 reaching out to me more.

Last night SS13 even through out an "I love you guys" and a "good night Step Off, Good night Dad" before bed.

"Wow, you're really strict on SS13"

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My brother's 17 year old girlfriend was at our house last night visiting. My brother used to live with us, so she is very comfortable with our family.

It was about 7:30 last night and me, DH, B, and B's GF were sitting around the kitchen table talking. I reminded DH to check on SS13 who'd been working on HW alone in his room for the past few hours.

Gee thanks for buying SS13 Some Socks for his 5 Day Trip Across the Country - MOTY!

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So BM brought SS's money to the school office on Friday - but SURPRISE - even though SS had enough to cover the remaining balance, for some reason BM didn't pay the full balance. Wonder where the money went? }:)

BM is such an idiot - "accidental texts"

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I'm not sure if she's just a high idiot or if she is intentionally doing this, but it happened again...

yesterday she sends DH and "accidental" text: sorry, I have my son this weekend so I won't be able to see you. I really enjoyed meeting you and hope to see you soon.

(or some nonsense along those lines). And then she'll send DH another text saying, "sorry, that wasn't for you"

This woman sends my DH two texts a week prior to her 2 weekly phone calls she has with her son. So it's not like DH is at the top of her recent text messages and it's a simple accident.

Attended SS13's Parent Teacher conference this morning

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And, as I've known was the case, SS has been goofing around in class, not doing work, etc.

He's in 7th grade at a very small school. They send behavior reports home weekly, but they are filled out by his main teacher - who's class he does well in. Over the past few months, SS has been on increased lock down because of bits and pieces getting back to us on work that's not getting done.

SS13: Oh, it's date night? you guys should take me

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DH comes home tonight with SS and says he'll make SS something to eat really quick and then we'll head out. Thursday night is our date night and we'll usually grab a bite to eat or take care of an errand we need to do without the kids - tonight we're stopping at the pharmacy.

SS asks, "oh, you're going out tonight? what do you usually do?"
DH: Oh, like go out to pizza and play video games
SS: oh...(sad face) you guys should take me

silence.......................................

MEN! Ugh! I Love DH but come on!

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So yesterday morning as I'm driving the kids to school, I get a call from DH asking about proof of insurance. Apparently he can't find his slip in his vehicle and he needs it to rent something for the work he'll be doing that day. I let him know I"m driving and I'll call him when I'm at the school.

I provide him with the insurance agent's number. He already knows that I have two appointments first thing in the morning for work.

SS13 Calls BM to ask her to bring "All" of His Money

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SS13 is so excited about earning money and he's been counting it up in his head: how much he's earned, how much more he can earn prior to his trip, etc.

He had his scheduled call with his mom last night and he told his mom to bring his money directly to the school office right when school was out to pay for the remainder of the trip. SS had asked me how much total he owed ($157) and he told me that he actually "should" have $160 at his mom's.

So while on the phone with BM, I overhear him saying, "I need you to bring ALL of my money. ALL of it. I need it ALL." lol.

And you think you've got it bad...

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I have a friend with her first baby who is now 5 months old. She lives with her BF, the baby and his daughter who is 4 is there part time as well and shares a room with baby. This is her place and BF just moved in, and they constantly discuss him moving out. This weekend, "they" are moving into a new apartment.

Where is the boyfriend today?

Oh, he took his 4 year old to the amusement park and will be back around 3 to help finish.

WTF?!

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