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Submitted by step off already on Wed, 05/29/2013 - 11:10am

Another forum topic got me thinking about this and I'm wondering what you all think.

When children are traumatized, they often get stuck in a development phase. For example, Dr. Drew is HUGE on women with "little girl voices" as being victims of sexual abuse back when they were little girls. Something happens developmentally and they get stuck.

Is it Wrong to Exclude SS13?

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Submitted by step off already on Sun, 05/26/2013 - 12:36pm

Every time I plan something for the family or just the kids, he ruins it. He throws an attitude, pouts, talks back - whatever.

Summer I will be home on maternity leave and will have my 3 kids home with me all day, every day and have scheduled a few activities for them and have bought them passes to the local amusement park.

I do not want to take SS anywhere. He is doing his first two week on/off between our house and BM's house. He is usually with us FT, so this will be a welcome respite!

VENT: Since ExH is now Married... He is irritating my more and more. Yes, I'm a BM too!

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Submitted by step off already on Mon, 05/20/2013 - 1:50pm

I'm about to get all Bat-shit BM on my ex and I'm trying to relax.

Let me just preface this by saying that exH and I have ALWAYS been very flexible with our 60/40 schedule with our three kids and we get along quite well. We have been divorced for 6 years and we are both recently remarried. But it seems that now that he is married (6 months in now), I see that things are changing.

Feeling Good today - it seems as if they are moving forward with "getting" BM for Breaking the RO

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Submitted by step off already on Fri, 05/17/2013 - 9:52am

DH filed a police report Sunday night and provided proof that BM was breaking the restraining order. I've done lots of research on this and some of it states that the police are REQUIRED to arrest someone if there is proof that the order is being broken. Other research indicated that the police do not get involved, but you can file a report and then use the reports to file for contempt with the judge.

DH Thinks we should give SS back his tablet

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Submitted by step off already on Thu, 05/16/2013 - 7:38pm

even though we told him that he'd get things back after he had two weeks of all homework in and that as soon as he dropped down to anything missing, it'd be taken again.

Do you think SS13 has had two weeks of getting all HW in? Of course not.

DH thinks we should give him something "because he can tell he's getting sad and he really wants his xbox back and can't we just give him something. he's only missed one assignment last week"

OT - what to do about DD12 and her lying

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Submitted by step off already on Thu, 05/16/2013 - 4:46pm

My exH actually consulted someone regarding this and they say it is a very normal behavior for 12 year olds to start to lie to try to avoid getting in trouble for something. they can't see past their immediate issue, blah, blah, blah.

Anyway, my dear, sweet angel of a daughter turned 12 and has seemed to go nuts over night. She has taken to lieing - and she's really, really bad at it and she lies about the silliest things.

Hey BMs: Did you and/or did you help your children recognize SM on Mother's Day?

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Submitted by step off already on Wed, 05/15/2013 - 12:40pm

Just wondering. I know many on this site have BMs that are atrocious and we wish they'd crawl back under the rock they came from (myself included), but for those of you that are BMs yourself, I'm just wondering if you did anything to recognize your children's SM.

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