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Family Dynamics: things they are a changin'

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Dh and I had our first baby together just over two week ago and I've noticed some interesting changes.

Background: I have dd12, ds10 and ds9 who are with is about 60%+ of the tIme. DH has ss13 who we have primary custody of. He sees BM eowe but this summer he is doing two weeks on/ off between homes. BM was absent from ss's life for about 7 years but came back around when she got wind of another woman (me) and now she sees SS regularly but... She's nutso. We have a restraining order against her and she constantly causes problems of one sort or another.

BM has some nerve..

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The crazy bitch actually texted mil asking if our house was clean because ss13 has flea bites on his legs. Really bitch?

This is the mom that abandons her son for 7 years and just started consistent visitation. This is the BM that had SS bring his bday money over so she could "open him a checking account" and when he needed the money, she was only able to come up with half. This is the mom that told her son that his father will not love him once the new baby arrives.

Our baby arrived today

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She's beautiful and DH and I are ecstatic.

Our first visitors were my dd12, DS10 and ds9 escorted by their father. I loved seeing DS9 and dd12 hold and love on the baby. Ds10 is not big on changed ( he's on the autism spectrum and needs to be eased into things) but still he came and used his manners and I enjoyed them being here.

There I said it, "skid is an idiot"

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Man the kid is a giant dork. If I have to hear him one more time,...

- dad, I love you
- hi dad
- dad, are you mad at me?
- ate you coming in the pool dad?

We ate at the fricken pool and ss14 had his shorts pulled up to his belly button to "hide" his extra weight. He has shouted for his dad like 8 times and it's making me nuts. Play with the kids.

Sheesh

Pay as you go cell phones - google mail... someone posted something about this for tracking purposes

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I can't for the life of me find that thread where the OP stated something about utilizing a google account to set up a cell phone account and then they could track / have a log of all calls an emails.

Anyone know anything about this or how it works?

Bleh. Can you say "irritable"?

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I'm irritable! Probably largely due to being due in 10 days. (ya think?)

I had to ask DH to please ask ss13 to knock/ask before entering our room tonight after he flew past me at 9 pm as I was heading to the bathroom and he wanted to say goodnight to his dad. Even my 9 year old son has more respect and will stand patiently at my door when it is open, and wait to get my attention before walkIng in.

Just another morning - nothing too exciting, but SS13 is showing some age-appropriate growth

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This morning SS13 asks me if he is going to his Aunt's today. (Apparently, he's too cool to hang out at home or to do things with me and my bios, which is fine with me and actually shows a bit of growth for him :-)). I ask him if he was invited as he is definitely the type to wear out his welcome and he was just over there yesterday. He says no. That pretty much ends that part of the discussion.

Then he says, "can I invite a friend over?" and I tell him we have a few things to do today. He says, "well, my dad said I could" and I just say, "well, your dad isn't here".

It amazes me how BM can inflict such havoc in such little time

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Last night after SS13's 10 min call with BM, his attitude changed. DH sat at the table eating dinner with him and said SS was "freaking out", had butterflies in his stomach and looked like he was about to cry. DH asked him if he missed his mom and he said no. Something must have taken place on the call because SS was now too afraid to watch tv alone upstairs.

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