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Help me: dh to file for cs from bm

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Submitted by step off already on Tue, 10/15/2013 - 8:30pm

My dh has always taken care of ss13. Last year+ when he finalized the divorce with bm no child support was awarded. He was/is custodial, she has EOWe. At the time of the hearing, neither we're represented by an attorney, and bm was tryin to get spousal support. Long story, short: judge didn't award anyone anything because dh wasn't working, bm "claimed" she wasn't working, and bm was trying to get spousal support. My interpretation wa that th judge didn't want to extend it, so he just didn't away anyone anything.

Here we are one year later.

OT: had to step in while a mother allowed her 4 yo to continuously assault her 2 yo

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Submitted by step off already on Sun, 10/13/2013 - 6:32pm

Yesterday was family picture day. When we were through, we waited in the busy lobby to see our proofs. One mom was sitting with an employee reviewing her proofs when her two year old started screaming. She didn't flinch

The two year old was strapped into an umbrella stroller and the olderbrogher was bugging him. The 2 year old kept crying and the older child literally started banging his hands against the 2 year old's face. The mother didn't move even as the two year old's screams escalated. People in the lobby looked at each other. No one did anything.

DH stepped up his game; an update tO SS13's request for Internet in his room

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Submitted by step off already on Sun, 10/13/2013 - 6:13pm

Last week when SS returned from visiting bm he asked again about getting Internet set up in his room so he could go online with his Xbox. Dh blew home off.

This morning DH tells me the following story:
Yesterday, ss13 mentions to dh "I heard you and step of talking about the device for the router. Does that mean you're setting up Internet in my room?"

And this week SS asks for an iPod

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Submitted by step off already on Tue, 10/08/2013 - 12:33pm

Quick recap of what SS has come home and asked for each week since school started 4 weeks ago:

Internet in his room
Cell phone
Ps3 with Internet and grand theft auto game
His tablet to get fixed
New shoes, back pack and jacket

And now...

He wants an iPod so he can FaceTime with his friends. And he still wants Internet in his room.

Want to know what my kids have asked for? Nothing. Nothing at all.

Update on (what I thought was) Grissest SS ever

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Submitted by step off already on Tue, 10/08/2013 - 12:28pm

I pick the kids up from school. Ss13 asks if he can have friends over this weekend. I remind him of our plans and say to all the kids that rooms and upstairs livin. Rooms must be cleane before any guess can come over. I also mention tht we will be having a family meeting the next night to discuss our home and rules.

We get home. SS immediately takes out his garbage (which I'm sure has his two bottles of pee in there because I left them outfit him. Dh gets home minutes later and heads right up to ss13's room.

BM twists it all again

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Submitted by step off already on Mon, 10/07/2013 - 10:58pm

Poor SS13. We have a restraining order against bm and the court order allows her to call SS on mon and wed between 7 and 8. Tonight we were headed out to boy scouts for my two boys and ss's first pack meeting. When we were in the way, he said "oh wait, Im supposed to call my mom at 7".

Since bm has been slacking on callig and ss has been the one makig the calls lately, i decided to speak Up and said, "don't worry about it. She's actually supposed to call you".

SS was surprised and said, "really? She said that I'm supposed to call her".

Ok ST I am pretty sure I have you all beat for grossest SS!

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Submitted by step off already on Mon, 10/07/2013 - 1:36pm

Thought I would be nice and fold a few of The kids clothes. I went into ss's disgusting room and noticed sheets in a pile. I peaked at his bed to see if he had others on but nope. And that's when I saw it.

A water bottle filled with amber liquid poking out from under the bed. I pulled it out along with a second bottle! The kid (whos bedroom is less than a foot away from the bathroom has been pissing into water bottles in his bedroom. I know the kid is cared of zombies and all but his is ridiculous.

I snapped a pic and texted it to my dh letting him know what I found.

DH says (surprised), "SS13 really likes you"

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Submitted by step off already on Mon, 10/07/2013 - 9:47am

Well, it's only taken a few years for us to get to this point but I may have to agree that SS actually likes me now.

He was such a twit when I first came into the picture but it was really just because his BM who had been absent fr 7 years and magically decided to show back up when I came in the picture, was feeding his head with garbage ad telling him to be mean to me. So he did.

DH Thinks there's a Double Standard

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Submitted by step off already on Fri, 10/04/2013 - 12:23pm

But it's HIS!

Apparently, DH thinks it is perfectly acceptable for SS13 to call HIM to ask if his friend can come over after school when he is on his way to the house with a friend and I am the one at home.

Back Story:

We've been trying to give the kids a bit more responsibility and priveleges. We let all 4 kids walk home from school on Wednesday. This was a first for my three kids. (I followed them without them knowing because they have to cross three busy streets).

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