So, many of you know my family is 50 Shades of Crazy.
This week, one of my Uncles (not Uncle Jacka$$-his youngest brother rather) rolled his truck late at night, got his 5th DWI and is looking at a pretty solid prison stint.
Last week pretty much blew. The tension/issues between SO and I spanned the ENTIRE stupid week. This was mostly due to not having adequate time to sit down and discuss what we needed to discuss.
Thank you so much to those of you who offered advice on my elderly FIL moving in. Over the past 4 days I have found myself referring to your advice in my head, taking care of myself, letting him know our schedule/plan for the day, reaching out for help all of that good stuff.
So this isn't really step related, but I'm quite anxious-and after the fact too which is the best type of anxiety.
I just saw someone on fb giving someone else advice. They spelled "function" "funkshion"
And left it that way. I type on my tablet, so I'm no stranger to typos but I am SHOOK. I couldn't post this on Facebook so I had to post it here. This girl's spell check just straight up gave up and is probably on a barstool somewhere.
*** I sliced this blog in half if you just want to know what DCP's reaction to all of this was***
So I took BD to her doctor today to follow up on the list of reports I have been getting from DCP. I need to process all of the information I was given as well as start the process of figuring out where I come down on all of this.
So I'm going to do it here, because my brain works best through my keyboard.
First of all, thank you everyone for your help and insight today. After looking over everyone's comments, I did decide to reach out to BD's doctor. He's a really cool dude and we set up an observation appointment and a 15 minute meeting. He doesn't think there is anything wrong with her, that she is just 3 but he does understand she's very "autonomous and spirited" and said he would be more than happy to give me a few pointers after hearing what I'm dealing with as far as DCP's reports go and he told me to stop googling.
So BD3 has been attending her new Daycare for about a year.
Now my BD is VERY active. She enjoys greatly being the center of attention (she's a Leo) and very much a people person-but not a people pleaser by any means. From the time she was a baby, she would much rather sit and coo and look at you than she would anything else. She also refused to sleep and is quite skilled at keeping herself awake, which forced us into cry it out because she just would not sleep if someone else was in the room.
So SO took BD3 over to BM2's parents house today to give SD7 her Christmas presents. Of corse they always have some gifts for SS and BD as well. BD has been there a few times before and as an extremely extroverted child has adopted BM2's parents as her own too, she calls them Meme and Papa because that's what SD7 calls them, and according to SO, like most people in BD's life they are thrilled about this. BD loves going to play with her big sister and while not ideal yet, it's better than it was.
You know, I never knew a person could have so much presence and not be present.
This is the hard part, the part that always finds a way and seeps in. The constant drama dodging song and dance. I would even go so far to say I prefer years where we don't hear much from her all as opposed to the ones we actually do. But that's not necessarily true because she's just as present those years too.