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OT- we lost MIL :(

mommadukes2015's picture

It’s almost been 2 weeks and it’s insane to think it’s been that long already, but we lost MIL. 

5 days before she passed we were all in her room, meeting with doctors who were telling us that while they couldn’t give an exact time frame, she could have anywhere from weeks to a few months but if her levels came back up, they would consider a 2nd round of chemo-she just needed to eat more and get moving. They were going to place her in a hospice facility really close to our house and if she was feeling better, they would check her levels again. 

She had a few good days after that and then turned on a dime and went down fast. 

I fed her her last meal, of course not knowing that it would be her last. If I had known the occasion I would have cooked. That last day was so special I’m so many ways-so I’m really really blessed to have gotten that time with her. We talked about the wedding and I showed her my dress, we talked about which headscarf she likes wear and now that’s all gone. I’m still so happy for what parts she did get to participate in. She helped SO create a Pinterest board full of tuxes they liked. 

SO is slowly but surely coming around. I just feel so so bad for him. I want so badly to understand but I know it’s a different kind of pain. 

Anyway, that’s all I got for tonight. Thank you to everyone who offered words of encouragement and suggestions throughout these last few months. 


soy_girl's picture

I’m so sorry about your loss. I lost my dad in August, and I’m still suddenly overwhelmed at times by emotion.  I’m glad you were able to spend time with her and share ideas about the wedding.

mommadukes2015's picture

I’m so sorry about your dad <3. I haven’t had to cross that bridge yet, but watching my SO go through it is heartbreaking. Sending all the peaceful vibes your way my dear <3

tog redux's picture

So sorry. I lost my father two years ago, and they thought he would live a few more weeks or even months than he did.  I think he decided he was done, and I'm glad he didn't linger and suffer.  I know he didn't want to burden my mother or us.  But I still miss him every day.

Aunt Agatha's picture

My condolences on you and your family's loss.