So so sorry to dump and run on you but it’s been a crazy couple of weeks.
MIL has a very rare form of cancer-it’s neuroendocrine cancer that is causing her cushing’s symptoms. She spent a week in the serious hospital in my area and at the beginning of this week was moved to the hospital closer to home for palliative care.
She has SCLC, which has metastasized to her bones and liver.
So yeah. Outlook is pretty bleak. This will kill her, now the question is how quickly. Optimistically speaking she has 14 months. Realistically we know it’s likely to be less than that. SO is taking it as well as he can but it clearly hurts deep deep deep. We all are. She’s the best MIL in the world I swear she’s like a best friend to me.
This pending engagement has been a disrestraction for her. I stayed with her one night last week to give SO a break. I told her my plans, we had a big ol’ discussion about it and how a reverse proposal would make my very traditional SO feel. So we talked about her picking an engagement ring for him to give me (which is presumptive but he tells people at work I’m his wife so that cat is baisically in the bag)-she picked the ring. It is flanked by her emerald birthstones. It arrived today.
It took everything in my power not to put it on-when I texted her-she’s like put it on and show me! I told her I can’t! Must resist the urge. We settled on putting on the wrong finger which means we didn’t technically cheat on our own rules.
So on the bright side, it gives everyone-SO’s whole family something to talk to her about but not SO. I have come so close to cracking so many times. But I know how important it is to him to have his kids-SS14 and SD9 included and they both know. BD5 doesn’t because she can’t keep a damn secret. So. Yup. Keeping secrets from my own kid.
Anyway, thank you all so much for your responses-I read them and then forgot what I changed my password to, and have been crazy ever since. I appreciate the support and the real talk-you guys really are the best.
So stay tuned-hopefully my next post is about how well it went and how much better MIL is feeling after her treatment <3