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Always knew ET lied but...

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DH and I told the boys that ET's DH left. Not out of spite, but out of pity and concern. She has been trying to spend time with OSS, so DH and I were trying to say, "hey, if she asks to see you, perhaps consider it because she's going through a hard time." And we wanted YSS to have some compassion when he saw her during his visit.

Your Partner Treats You Badly because You Let Them

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UPFRONT NOTE: I am not talking about abuse here. Before anyone starts down the victim-blaming line of thinking, that's not where I'm going with this.

Now, time for a Lt. Dad's fireside announcement, because there is no chat or back-and-forth with this.

Your partner treats you like crap because you keep allowing them to treat you like crap.

ET is single again...

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Apparently her DH packed his stuff and left. Eff. That leaves ET taking care of herself and being alone, and I have no idea what that's going to look like because that has never happened before. There was always someone waiting in the wings, or the boys were there, or her mom was around.

The good news is that I don't think she can make enough money to move back around here on her own. The bad news is that this could stir up drama. I'm not concerned about her, but I am concerned about how she'll make the SSs feel now that she's alone.

OT - Advice to Sister about Our Mom

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If you've read my previous blogs and posts on other people's blog (and some of you know more than most - looking at you, Gim), you know that my mom and sister both suffer from mental health issues and have an iffy relationship for both justified and unjustified reasons.

Current situation: my sister graduated from college and has applied for a Master's program that she needs to reach her goals. This is HUGE for her, and she has done it as a young "non-traditional student" who spent the last two semesters working full time, taking classes, and doing her internship.

Oh ET. Just...Oh.

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So a few updates for folks who would like them:

1.) We successfully moved and sold our old house! Leaky toilet and pet-stained carpet aside, it has been pretty smooth.

2.) ET didn't pay YSS's school fees for this past year. She gets a STEEP discount on those fees. The grand total she didn't pay? $35. Yep. She has had since July to pay $35 and she hasn't. Mind you, she paid nothing towards OSS's college, amd DH put more than double that into YSS's lunch account. She well and truly now pays absolutely nothing for her kids - not even the measly school fee.

I now know why ET hated (hates?) me...

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OSS spilled the tea (actually, lots of tea that I won't be discussing, but this has to do with me and is insane so I'm sharing).

ET started hating me back in the day because I tried parenting her kids. Seems reasonable.

What was the great offense I committed? I was telling DH about some stuff that happened in a movie so he could decide if it was too adult for YSS (who was 9 or 10 at the time) to watch. 

Maybe Today Satan

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Y'all, I'm burnt TF out.

Work is chaotic at best, and will remain so until August. We're two weeks out from moving so everything that is non-essential like books and activities are all packed away. I'm halfway vaccinated so I can't go out and do too much yet. We have a trip planned for later this summer, but it's still 60+ days out. 

Good News about YSS

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Short update: YSS had a therapy appointment earlier this week. DH participated in the appointment because they were updating his care plan.

The therapist asked YSS how often he has been having suicidal thoughts, and he said he hadn't had them in a while. When he started therapy, it was daily.

ET Tells Her Kids They're Brainwashed

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Apparently when ET took the boys to lunch last week, the three of them got on the topic of the COVID-19 vaccines. DH, the boys, and myself are pro-vaccine and have been taking precautions to prevent COVID. ET and her DH? Not so much.

Anyway, vaccines are now available to anyone old enough to get them. I signed myself and OSS up for the vaccine. I showed DH how to sign up. We've both told YSS when it's available for his age (hoping soon!) that we'll get him the vaccine. We aren't pushing the boys to get it; they want it.

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