Always knew ET lied but...
DH and I told the boys that ET's DH left. Not out of spite, but out of pity and concern. She has been trying to spend time with OSS, so DH and I were trying to say, "hey, if she asks to see you, perhaps consider it because she's going through a hard time." And we wanted YSS to have some compassion when he saw her during his visit.
Anyway, YSS texted ET on the way to drop off and she mentioned her DH was going to be home late. At drop off, she disclosed to DH while YSS was out of earshot that the reason her DH left was because she wanted an open relationship, he "agreed", and then got cold feet and left. Now he's back.
Okay, fine. No issues with that. That's a personal relationship issue they need to work through. Could be far worse.
Folks, ET made it worse.
She had dinner earlier this week with YSS and OSS. She asked if my DH told them why her DH had left. My DH had not, so the boys truthfully told her no.
ET then tells them that her DH accused her of cheating, left her, came back part-time, and made a "joke" that he's likely cheating on her instead.
I can feel the headache forming already.
SWEET LORD, WOMAN - WHY TELL YOUR KIDS THIS?!?! Why not just say "oh, we had a spat, but we're working on it, thank you for being concerned but I'll be okay"?!?! Why tell them that you think you're being cheated on when YOU ACTUALLY JUST WANTED TO OPEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP?!
Let's not forget that ET cheated on DH and XH#2, the boys' first stepdad that they called "Daddy" back when ET tried to PAS. Hell, WE met one of the dudes she was cheating with because she was so certain they were getting married while she was still living with XH#2!
It's not that I ever trusted her, but this is one of the first times there has been proof of her lying. And it's SUCH a dumb thing to lie about. The boys don't care about her DH. They don't care about anyone she dates. She's not getting brownie points with her kids. They don't feel sorry for her or like she's a victim. So what's the play here? Not knowing what crazy she may unleash is always the unnerving part.