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Update to Taking Bets...

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DH and I were chatting earlier this week about STalk (yes, we chat about it from time to time) and I told him about my "Taking Bets" post.

If you didn't read it, the quick-and-dirty is that YSS is failing many classes, semi-wants to go to DC as part of a school trip, and it's stupidly expensive. DH initially said no, but I feared he would give in.

So, I tell him what I posted and reminded him that it's me venting so it's not very flattering. I tell him my fears, including that BM would scrap together the deposit and he'd end up paying the rest.

Taking Bets: Will DH actually say no???

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I'm inclined to think he will say no because of how disappointed he is in YSS right now.

As I mentioned on the last episode of As The Stepmom's Head Turns, YSS is failing 3 classes, mostly because of missing assignments. So, it's not an issue of not understanding. It's an issue of not doing the work. And if it is an issue of not understanding, he hasn't mentioned it to any of us.

The Perfect CS System

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I know this topic pops up from time to time, but I just had a new thought and wanted to hear from others what they think would create the "perfect" CS system.

My new thought? Treat CS accounts like HSA accounts (for those outside the US, an HSA is a Health Savings Account; you can save money throughout the year in the account pre-tax to be spent on medical expenses, and if you use it on non-medical expenses, you pay something like a 20% tax on those goods on top of whatever local tax you paid to buy it).

OT - Funeral Etiquette Question

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I hate that I have to bring this up, but this year hasn't been off to great start.

Found out a friend's grandfather died. This friend is one we game with on non-kid weekends, and he is a colleague of mine.

What is proper etiquette? Send a card? Card and flowers? Send nothing? I don't know his family, just him.

Is there a flow chart somewhere that you can put in the characteristics of the relationship and get a "do this" response? Unfortunately, I am hitting the age where this is going to start happening more frequently, so this isn't a one-time-only deal.

Yep, noping right out of this one...

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The good: OSS had a band competition two weekends ago. Received gold medals. Overall, excellent job!

The bad: YSS is failing half his classes while getting A's in the others. Two of the classes are taught by the same teacher, and YSS doesn't like her method of teaching. We (even I) have had conversations since the beginning of the year about how to address those issues with his teacher.

Has he done that? Nope.

We've reached a compromise...

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DH and I had a very logical discussion last night about my issues regarding BM. I explained that I feel like he is putting me in a no-win situation: he doesn't like me disengaging, he doesn't want to fully separate finances (I don't either because it feels too tot-for-tat), he doesn't want me addressing BM directly, and he doesn't want me blowing my frustration and anger at him.

Update to New Year not off to a great start...

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We had to have my mom's dog put to sleep. He was a very large dog, 14 years old. He lived a long, good life with my mom and SF.

They had rescued him after a house fire they had worked. The family couldn't take him to their temporary housing, and he was still a pup. My mom called me when she got him and asked me to go buy him stuff for his new home. I spent most of my paycheck, since I was still in high school, getting him food, toys, collar, bed, and crate.

Nothing like using your scheduled PTO for sick leave...

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I knew it would be too good to be true if I made it 2 years in a row without getting sick around Christmas. I blame my inability to exercise consistently the last few months due to injuries as the culprit. Man, I was never an exerciser and didn't see what people got out of it until I couldn't do it. Now I'm itching to get back at it!

You got him something he's ALLERGIC to?!

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Rant ahead.

YSS has some really severe allergies and sinus issues. He gets weekly allergy shots and had sinus surgery twice. He's on at least 2 allergy medicines at any given time, and he STILL struggles to breathe. It even causes him speech issues because he breathes almost exclusively through his mouth.

YSS is super allergic to cats. Like, it's one of his worst allergens.

So what did GBM get him for Christmas? A MOTHERF#CKING CAT!