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Submitted by Happycamper on Thu, 11/02/2017 - 8:40am

I totally lost it yesterday. Again. I'm getting to where I can only take so much. SD17 was over doing her project which took a lot longer than the two of them thought. I drove up about 10 minutes after she left. I know this because I passed her on the road. DH had called me about 45 minutes before telling me she was leaving then. He came outside saying something about how long it took me to get home. Yes I found things to do knowing he was helping her with homework. I said something like you can't be alone for 10 minutes?

Plans again...SD knows how to get her way

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Submitted by Happycamper on Tue, 10/31/2017 - 7:32am

You guys are tired of hearing from me I know. I just need to vent and I have no where else or no one else to do it with. So when I was out of town this weekend DH was supposed to help SD17 with a project I mentioned earlier. They waited until Sunday afternoon to even start it and it was more than they expected. I'm sure that's why she was given weeks to do it. He said she would be back Wednesday to finish it. Today we were planning to go to the movies after work. I just got the call that SD needs to come do the project today because she has plans tomorrow with a boy. DH knows I'm mad.

I'm back! And drama awaits!

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Submitted by Happycamper on Sun, 10/29/2017 - 8:23pm

Got back today. The trip alone was so blissful. I got to do what I wanted without worrying about what DH would say. BS even said last year when he came he seemed miserable and didn't want to do what we all did. Attempted to get here after skids left. SD14 had a bday party at 2:30. SD17 was going to drop her on the way home. DH calls and says that BM was picking up the younger one because SD17 still hadn't done her homework and he had to help her. She had a project that I've known about for over a week and they waited till Sunday at 2 to start it.

Update on uncle and situation

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Submitted by Happycamper on Wed, 10/25/2017 - 6:43am

Woke up and found out that my uncle did pass last night. Getting things together for my 8ish hour journey home alone. DH had absolutely no compassion. I get the old I never met her, my daughter would never forgive me for missing her band performance, blah blah blah. It's not about him meeting or knowing her. Heck there are many family members he could meet at the funeral if he cared to that live away. It's about wanting to be there to support me and more importantly my mom. If you want to be part of my family then act like it.

New situations...how do you handle it?

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Submitted by Happycamper on Mon, 10/23/2017 - 8:01pm

Ok if you look at my post from last week I was upset because DH canceled our plans of going out of town to see my kiddo in college with me because skid wanted him to go to something of hers. I found out yesterday that he asked skids to come stay at our house for the weekend (not our weekend) because I was still going out of town to see my child. Today I found that my uncle had a massive stroke and is in a coma. They don't expect him to pull through. It's looking like I will divert my trip home. My mom is older and not handling this well. DH still plans his weekend with skids.

So, so, so mad right now

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Submitted by Happycamper on Sun, 10/22/2017 - 7:56pm

I'm just so livid right now. I will go ahead and start off with no our money is not seperate. That's one thing DH is adamant about is a married couple should combine everything. I bring home more money than DH too. Ok. So I posted earlier about DH cancelling going with me to see my son. Well I am still going but I'm going alone. DH hung out with skids Florida night and took them on a dinner date tonight. He has now planned to get them next weekend since I will be out of town and he will be alone since he chose not to go. You can read earlier post about that.

Always will be mom's husband

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Submitted by Happycamper on Fri, 10/20/2017 - 8:31am

So DH always makes the comment--he even made it this morning before all this--that my kids refer to him as mom's husband and not step dad. DH is kind to my kids but he doesn't make them a priority. He complains about spending money when we visit and take them to eat, etc. thing he doesn't complain about doing for his kids. We have had a trip planned for months now to go visit my son at college next weekend. My son always asks about DH and includes him in everything. My son had all sorts of places planned to take us to.

Need opinion...am I asking too much?

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Submitted by Happycamper on Fri, 10/13/2017 - 11:17am

I've been posting about senior stuff but this is new. BM wants DH to go in halves with him on a senior ad in the yearbook. I've done something similar in the past with family members where we wish them well and put all our names in it. The ad isn't cheap. They start at $200. Here's the kicker, shouldn't my name be able to be in this ad? This is not something that is SD's choice. This is an ad wishing her well. I don't see why it should just be from DH and BM. BM had managed to keep me out of everything so far but if our household money is going into it why can't I be a part of it?

Senior excuses

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Submitted by Happycamper on Wed, 10/11/2017 - 11:15am

Anyone notice when their skids were seniors that it became a big excuse for BM to want to talk to DH all of the time? Just last week she called him while he was at work. Started out about senior pics ended up with her crying about how her life was and how she was going to be alone because her boyfriend wasn't going to marry her. Also told DH that she spends tons of money on the skids because they have low self esteems. Hello! Money doesn't buy a self esteem. Anyway, that was an hour conversation and I am not exaggerating one bit.

Another weekend I feel so done

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Submitted by Happycamper on Sat, 10/07/2017 - 10:59pm

This weekend we didn't have the skids but we spent the whole weekend going to their activities. Both are in HS. One is a freshman and one a senior. Last night we sat through a football game. It kind of chaps my hide when SD14 runs over to hug dad and say goodbye and doesn't even acknowledge my existence. I make a comment about it to DH because that's the kind of thing that he's be pissed about if my kids did. He always makes excuses. I'm sure she didn't mean anything by it. Really? She's not 6 anymore! She's in HS! He always makes it feel like it's me against the 3 of them.

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