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SD can act! Well put on an act that is!

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So this weekend the skids decided to grace us with their presence. They come now when it's convenient for them. SD17 is absolutely perfect in DH's eyes. I am not at all exaggerating this. She can do something and DH always comes up with some excuse like she didn't mean it like that or she would never do anything purposefully like that. In our 5 years he has swept every fault under a rug and come up with excuses for her. This morning he went to do some work on her car. She was in the kitchen and silent. I kept trying to start a conversation about school, etc.

Feeling down and out

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Today I'm just so down after my weekend. DH and I took a weekend trip to see my kids. We managed to fight going and coming back. He is always sour when he is going to be around my kids and he's like the total optimist around his that are absolutely perfect in his eyes. He had me crying going and coming. He is never happy when it comes to mine. He complains that they don't do something right. It was an awesome visit. The kids were sweet to him but when we leave he picks everything apart. First BD didn't directly thank him for snacks we brought. She thanked me but not him.

Update finances, BM, etc.

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DH finally talked to BM about getting the house out of his name. Of course she wanted to know why the rush? Why now? I guess 5 years isn't long enough time for her. He explained to her that we can't own anything together as long as they are tied together financially. She gave him the sob story that she can't afford to refinance and she would have to sell the house and the skids would lose their childhood home. Didn't stop her from taking a $10K vacation this year!

BM, finances, venting

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So we had to meet up with BM for something tonight. She totally gets on my nerves. I will have to explain some of the reasons why. First thing she does is hang DH a bag of pics that she found that he would want...yes their prom and wedding photos were inside. Lol. I'm sure that was done on purpose. She also filled the bag with doctor bills asking for half. We do pay the insurance and half the doc bills but she runs the kids to specialists and doesn't even talk to us and we get no kidding, $3,000 bills in the mail in DH's name. She doesn't even tell him. Today it was $2,000 worth.

Will it ever work?

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So I'm in that 2nd marriage where the two sets of kids never geled. They haven't been together a whole lot but neither side will talk to the other when they are together. Of course DH blames my kids. It's ok for his to leave the room when mine visit or get on the phone because they don't feel "comfortable." We've been married 5 years now. Mine are older and both in college while both of his are in high school. They are rarely together but neither side cares to know the other. Even this weekend my DH made a stupid comment about a family friend being like the son he never had.

Guilt

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DH tells me today that he talked to his kids and apologized for hurting them with his divorce. I've been reading up awhile on the daddy guilt because I've suspected it for awhile. He doesn't discipline at all. He's a total different person when the kids are here. He becomes a clown and everything is a joke. We can't be serious about anything because it might hurt their feelings. I can't ask for skids to pick up their mess because it's not my place. Well, you are getting it right? Anyway, we've been together for 5 years now and he's apologizing still for divorce hurt.

What's even normal anymore?

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I guess you could say I'm a little on edge with all the senior activities coming up that I'm not a part of but I'm just over some of this. Yesterday the skids FaceTimed DH. They talked about an hour and the entire time it was a conversation with the skids, DH and BM. She was in the room and chiming in the ENTIRE time. Skids would be telling them both stories like one big happy family. DH would talk directly to BM at times. I almost said, just hang up and drive to their house to hang out. They live in the same town as us. It's one thing to be face timing the skids but come on.

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