My fathers response "I'm sad for you but he has too much baggage and the minute you are third priority is the minute you leave". He also commented on the fact that dh is very moody and the last time we visited my parents house he wanted to leave after only 2 and a half hours. I rarely visit my parents cause they live over 2 hours away. It had been months . They told me they would lend me a months deposit that I can pay back and have been very supportive about everything. Today it has sunk in more and I feel exhausted. Really really drained.

Nothing more to add... The title does what it says on the tin....

Is actually what h text me today. It is not "my thing". It is a mass to celebrate my uncle who took his life this time last year at only 58 years of age. Not only that when I replied back about things in the house that needed to be seen to also with alluding to "my thing" as he so kindly put it, it was 6 hours ago and he never even bothered to reply..........

So after I posted yesterday, dh apologized to me and said "I should have too you ". While I accepted the apology my heart was just not in it and I was distant to him last night. This morning I just woke up thinking "I do not love this man the way I used to". This man made me feel safe, loved and valued. And because of this I dealt with his baggage of two kids and two BMs. Now I am third/fourth priority after ss, his work and now his friends.