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So I told my family...

Fullofresentment's picture

My fathers response "I'm sad for you but he has too much baggage and the minute you are third priority is the minute you leave". He also commented on the fact that dh is very moody and the last time we visited my parents house he wanted to leave after only 2 and a half hours. I rarely visit my parents cause they live over 2 hours away. It had been months . They told me they would lend me a months deposit that I can pay back and have been very supportive about everything. Today it has sunk in more and I feel exhausted. Really really drained. I can see dh was on whatsapp to talk to ss but of course he will not contact me - it's so heartbreaking to think someone who you loved thinks or cares about you that little. But dh will be happier if it's just him and ss - all he will need now is a bit on the side to take care of his sexual needs and he will be happy out - no doubt he will be on dating websites in a matter of days Sad

Thanks to everyone for their support the past few days. As I hadn't told anyone in irl ye were all I had and your words were most appreciated x

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oneoffour's picture

I think you feel exhausted and tired because all the stress, the little niggly things, the fights, the crying, the biting your tongue has all come down to a simple walk-away.
And it is tiring and exhausting and so sad. So cry, rant on here about the idiot he is. Do not rush out and find someone to prove you are better than him. Leave it in your past as a lesson on how you will never be treated again. Be happy that you have no children with him and will never have to see him again nor will a child of yours possibly have such a shitty attitude.

Make sure you get a nice fluffy blanket and wrap yourself in it for comfort. Spray it with your favourite perfume and just snuggle and sleep with it. Even adults need a blanky/ snuggle rug.

This is not a failure on your part but a failure on his to be a husband. He may be a great father but a lousy husband. I have found few men who are good at both. So tell your friends etc that he wants to only be a dad and not a husband. He doesn't care about you anymore and it is better for you to leave.

Do not check up on him (as one who knows how this feels.. it sucks but it is the best route). Once you have removed your stuff from the house delete him from your cell phone and block his number. All details can be managed through your solicitor. And you never ever have to have his depressing face in your life ever again.

SMto2's picture

Your dad is spot-on. So glad to hear you have your family's support. Take this opportunity & move on to bigger & better things & don't look back. Smile