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I have never hated someone like I hate my h right now. Aware it might be petty to others but not to me

Fullofresentment's picture

Let me just start by saying I have deleted my previous post about worrying about sex education for his son because right now I couldn't care less what the fuck he does. And that is putting it lightly.

Today started off really well despite the fact it is my uncles first anniversary is tomorrow he committed suicide at only 58 years of age. It's a really hard time on us all, especially my mum and dad. I am going to stay with them for a few days and was going to take the train down but dh was being good and rented a car so I could take his. I really appreciated this and then he also decided to take me to our local for a drink and some bingo... It was a good laugh and really took my mind off tomorrow . I am bawling my eyes out as u think about what happened next. So I had three drinks (a bottle of Heineken and two mojitos so I am far from drunk) and he had five pints of Guinness. We pick up some food and on the way home he blows wind really loudly and disgustingly. He knew it was going to get the same reaction it always does (I grew up around women and to do that while someone is eating beside you on purpose is foul, and to do it twice is damn well disrespectful) especially when you do it as disgustingly as you can on purpose with no "excuse me", nothing. I know it sounds stupid and I'm embarrassed writing it but there was really no need for it at all.

Of course when I said this to h, he says why do I bother with you, I'm going to stop, it's over, and walks off essentially the night before I go home and deal with all of my families issues. Left me standing on the street. I am so upset. There was no need for any of this and to be threatened with divorcing me before I go home for a week has really stressed me out. I'm so angry I'm waiting for him to go asleep before I can even go in there.... Maybe I over reacted?? I really do not think so this time and I am the first to raise my hand when I do I think. I think it has honestly gotten to the stage that he has that little respect for me

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Fullofresentment's picture

That's the thing he never did this when we were first dating. I know I am a bit fussy about it because apart from my poor dad my house was all women so I really hate this. He will stand outside the bedroom and do it really loudly and I say nothing because at least he did that but to do it so disgustingly on purpose while I was eating was looking for a reaction and he certainly got it... I feel like he doesn't care what I think about him anymore. I always try to look nice around him
Still, this is the one bloody thing I ask for (within reason it's not like I don't expect him to do it at all! But while I'm eating?? What the fuck? I'm not one of his guy friends!!! It's just disrespectful, it's like he's trying to prove a point, he's the boss, it's his way always and I can't even tell him anything that's on my mind (like when he invited skid on date day) without him turning it into "he's divorcing me". Yes I get angry, I lose my temper and so does he But I don't automatically think ill divorce him, I'm beginning to think that way though. All over farting, can you believe it!!!!!!

Fullofresentment's picture

Sad Sad Sad he was snoring his head off when I got into bed, I'm sad Sad I'm realising it really is "put up or shut up" where my hubby is concerned...

misSTEP's picture

I would also not talk to him while you are gone. I hate the divorce threat. It is manipulative and just plain mean. Reminds me of my BIL who always threatens suicide to get his way but has never actually attempted it. It is disrespectful to people who truly have issues that make them feel that is the only way out.

I had issues similar to this with my own hubby. I told him that he needed to point his biological weapon AWAY from me when he does that. He did for a while and slid back into old habits. Finally, one time I kind of got on his case about it and said, "you're practically SHITTING on me..."

I saw it hit him like a ton of bricks. Since then, he has been very careful about where/when he does it.