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Submitted by Cover1W on Fri, 06/22/2018 - 1:15pm

Posting here as well in case you don't go to the teenage forums and my ongoing postings there.

So the Middle School promotion ceremony went exactly as I thought it would.  Per DH:

He arrives, attends ceremony.  Afterwards, tries to walk up to SD14, with a card (with cash in it), and she grabs a friend and RUNS away from him.  He goes back to BM, who takes card and says, with a grin, "She's just not ready to talk with you yet."

I'm freaking FUMING at this story.  But, DH has it understood.

Speechless II

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Submitted by Cover1W on Wed, 06/06/2018 - 12:30pm

So in my last blog post I wrote about how DH was wanting me to be more defferential to him around the SDs.  I disagreed and haven't changed much, but for not doing some things.  DH had agreed, for the millionth time, to help more with stuff.  Last night I just couldn't take it.  He had promised to take out the full, stinking trash the day before and to order a new coffee carafe (which I had broken and I was totally POd at myself and he offered to take getting a replacement one to help).  Two days later none of that has been done.

Speechless

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Submitted by Cover1W on Thu, 05/24/2018 - 12:32pm

Just an aggravating turn of events and I'm about to disengage not only from SD14 but also DH.

So, last night, DH prepped for dinner, and SD12 cooked it.  Great!  I came into the kitchen area (it is my two nights off cooking a week) and they let me know dinner was ready.  I asked DH to go ahead and set the table since SD12 cooked and that I would get the food stuff ready for serviing and the utensils out - I also cleaned up a bit while the table was being set.  Told SD12 to not do anything since she cooked.

Step Mom Recognition

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Submitted by Cover1W on Sun, 05/13/2018 - 11:33am

One of my friends posted this! I am staying away from Facebook the rest of the day now. He put his wife first, all others are a mention. 

 "...To my wife/stepmom, who has helped raised our boys to be the fine young men they are. She -and many other stepmoms- put in all the work but don't get the same returns. It took me to adulthood to understand and appreciate being raised by a step parent. I want you all to know how much I love and appreciate you guys. 

And to all other mothers out there. I wish you a

H A P P Y   M O T H E R S   D A Y !!"

Ostrich Effect

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Submitted by Cover1W on Fri, 03/23/2018 - 2:18pm

https://www.npr.org/2017/09/18/551901221/we-shouldn-t-stick-our-heads-in...

I though this was super interesting - someone had posted something about her DH and his Ostrich head-in-sand ways and my DH is like that too.  Then I was listening to some old podcasts and this one came up.

Wow - this is really relevant to a lot of us I think.

It's made me think about how I approach things with DH and how he reacts to finances, health AND his SDs.

Well, That Ought to Change Things, X

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Submitted by Cover1W on Fri, 03/02/2018 - 9:25pm

DH caved.
He totally caved.
He told SD14 he'd help drive her to get to the other high school. That she still wants to be at our house during the week but only if "no one else is here." WTF does that mean?
No discussion of room cleaning, anything.

I'm done, so freaking disengaged from that situation it'll make his head spin. No help from me at all. No covering any expenses like I sometimes help him with (he pays me back but no more Cover Credit).

I'll take control of all cleaning rules, anything left out anywhere is GONE.

DH did Good!

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Submitted by Cover1W on Fri, 03/02/2018 - 1:55pm

First a step back...I cannot make this stuff up.

Remember I was having a terrible time making sure the dang screen stayed on the bathtub drain in the SDs bathtub, that someone kept removing it? And I told DH that it was ALL on him at that point - I did end up permanently putting a screen in about a month ago though - that any issues HE'D have to solve on his own?

Well, That Ought to Change Things, IV

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Submitted by Cover1W on Fri, 02/16/2018 - 11:20am

Well, now we know why SD14 was so fixated on spending more time at “mommy’s.”
She announced it last night.
She wants to go to the high school nearer her mother, where more of her friends go – who live closer to BMs.
Because, #1 reason, most of her friends at our location are either not going to the school (for good reasons like going to COLLEGE already) or have announced they are ‘dumping’ the current friend group (tried to tell her that’s ridiculous and you don’t want to be friends with them anyway).

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