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Hiding Food

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DH and I are struggling with an issue with SD12 and I could use some opinions.   SD12 is slightly overweight.  Her doctor told DH (in private) that SD12 needs to start exercising more and cutting her portion sizes.  He told DH that she needs to lose 25lbs to get back into her healthy weight class.  He told DH not to put her on a diet or make a big deal of it, but to start regulating what she eats.

The Spy in my house

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It's been a while since I have blogged because things were relatively quiet.  We are still having some problems with SD12's behavior.  She still is messy and sneaky, which make it very difficult for me to live with her.  I am extremely OCD and can't stand the messes she makes.  Plus, when DH makes her clean up, it takes her hours to clean up a mess that should take only a few minutes.  I am lucky because DH stays on her about it and is making her be responsible and own her behavior.  

Court...

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DH and BM went to court last week. It lasted all day, as BM had several "character" witnesses. Also, she requested that SD13 talk to the judge so she could detail the abuse that she claims happened at our house. The judge did not allow that request, as it was determined in the original hearing that the abuse allegations were false. She did allow BM to tell about all the changes that she has made. Her social worker was also present.

BM back in our lives

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I haven't blogged much about BM because things had been so quiet since her visitation was removed. DH was working on a plan to get SD13 moved to a special school near our home. It would have combined the counseling that she needs with an education. Also, he has been attending counseling with her, hoping to repair their broken relationship. SD10 has been doing so much better. She has stopped crying all the time and seems excited about school and her activities.

Update about stbSM who threw chicken...

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I talked to my exH yesterday when we attended one of my bios' activities. Luckily, stbSM wasn't there so I was able to bring it up. I told him that I was concerned that she was displaying violent behavior in front of the kids. I also told him that my DS11 was scared to talk to exH about it, which is a problem.

She threw a chicken at me!

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I am at a serious loss on something that happened recently. My son told me something recently that is odd. He has been staying with his dad for about a week and a half. We get longer stints of time during the summer. I talk to my kids about every other day for about five to ten minutes. But, he called me yesterday while his dad and stbSM were out of the house. He told me that he needed to talk to me while he was alone. He was afraid to tell me this while his dad was in the house.

Update to my kids stbSM wants to be friends.

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I am not keeping these blogs up long, just in case. The last time I wrote about this, I was talking about how SM wanted to sit together and chat at my bios' extracurricular activity. It wasn't a huge deal because it is only once a week. It is very awkward but we are all pushing through it. There has been alot more contact because we have graduations and end of the year events at school. It is clear that my exH is very uncomfortable with all the contact.

DH's lie by omission

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I am really pi**ed at DH. He lied to me through omission and it made me late for work. This morning, I got up and DH had already left for work. He also dropped SD11 of at school. I was getting ready to work (I'm a work at home employee), but I was hungry and decided to run down to the local store and get some groceries. I grab my keys and head out the door, knowing that I have about an hour until work. When I get home, I go up to the door, but find that my house key isn't on my key ring. I kept going through the keys, trying to find it.

Another Schedule Change Question

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I read another poster's thread about her DH wanting to change his schedule and put more responsibility on her. My DH and I are going through something similar and I would like some advice. My DH has had an employment problem over the past year. He keeps jumping from jobs and it has played havoc with our finances. I work at home and work early in the morning (4 a.m.- 1 p.m.). I usually nap in the afternoons b/c by the time we get the kids to bed, I am exhausted. SD10 comes home from school at 3. The way it works now is that DH is home at 4.

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