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Should I tell him?

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So two days ago, I blogged about the stupid argument DF and I had about loving each other's kids as much as our own. I was so glad to read that I am not the only one who thinks it is nearly impossible to love another woman's kids as much as my own. However, there is this other issue that I am unsure about. DF and I live in one state and his daughters live about 1,000 miles away. We go to visit them 4 times a year and they spend holidays and summers with us. However, DF has this idea that his kids are going to live with us someday.

Stupid Argument

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So today, my DF and I had a stupid argument. We were talking about stepkids. And DF states that he thinks of my kids as his own, which I find sweet. But lets face it, I don't relate to his feelings...at all. He sees my kids half the time. My ex doesn't interfere with our daily lives. He pays his child support on time and stays out of our lives. However, BM is constantly interfering in our lives and poisoning his kids against him. And, I only see his kids a few times a year. I like his kids. I really do.

Oh I want to scream sometimes!

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I have read many blogs on this site and I know I am not alone in feeling that BM has way too much influence in my household. Usually, I am able to deal with it, but tonight, I completely unloaded on DF. A little history on my situation first: DF and I both have kids. My kids are with u 50% of the time. His kids live in another state and spend summers, holidays, and spring break with us. We also travel to their home state and spend time with them 4 times a year. I definitely understand and encourage DF to have a relationship with his kids.

Day 1 with Skids- And it ended with tears!

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So we got the skids today for Christmas break. As part of the CO, FDH gets the kids for the first week of Christmas break. However, because of work and things, we are returning them to their BM on Christmas night. Now, I consider myself a realist, but for some reason, I thought that this small amount of time would be easy to deal with. Oh, how wrong I was! It seems CAB (FDH's crazy ass bitch ex) has been filling SD7's head with more nonsense about how her daddy doesn't love her b/c he moved to FL.

Where to Start!!!

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I am new to this site. And I have been reading through other blogs from other stepmoms. The truth is that I am not technically a stepparent yet. I live with my DF. We were planning to marry in November 2014, but I am very hesitant to go forward. The truth is that I have two bio kids, a 7 year old son and a 2 year old daughter. I love them to pieces and being their mom has never been a challenge. But, my DF comes with two stepdaughters of his own, ages 9 and 7. I have met both of the kids numerous times, as DF and I were friends before we ever dated.

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