DH and I got notice yesterday that a court date has been set in the never ending custody case. BM has actually hired a lawyer and is spewing all kind of venom. She is claiming that she took SD10 because SD told BM that we were abusing her. She was just trying to rescue her. She is asking for visitation to be returned because she is working with CPS and is in counseling. These are requirements for her divorce from her DH. He is also asking for full custody of the kids they share.

Yes, you read that correctly. BM kidnapped SD10 over Thanksgiving break. And, she did it without getting into any trouble at all. I am still shocked and disgusted by this whole mess. So let me start at the beginning. As most of you know, our BM has no legal parental rights over SD10. She lost them after the last time she tried to kidnap her. I blame myself and DH for part of this mess, as we should have been more clear with our babysitter, but neither of us thought about it. SD10 hadn't mentioned BM in a while and seemed to have adjusted. She was happy and doing well in school.

We just found out that we are pregnant with our first "us" baby. We haven't been trying and I have some fertility issues so this was a shock. We are both excited, but I am really worried about telling the kids and BM. Usually, I wouldn't be worried about the kids, but with SD10 going through all of this stuff with BM, I am worried about her reaction. Also, once BM finds out, I guarantee she will come out of the woodwork and try to start trouble. She was already telling the SDs that DH would want to replace them by having kids with me.

Last night, SD9 literally cried for over an hour and a half. She wants her mom. She wants to live with her mom. She thinks her mom doesn't love her because she hasn't found a way to call. To be honest, BM did call here. I have her numbers blocked on all the phones and will only unblock them for her 5 minute call. She is to have her calls on Friday and she didn't call that night. I was so tempted to unblock the number and let her talk to her mom, but I held firm. The judge told us that we shouldn't deviate from the routine as it would confuse SD9 on her expectations.