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OT The Cat May Have Broken Her Leg

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FARTS FARTS FARTS....

I get a message from DH a moment ago. His cat FaceCake and SS15's cat ButterScotch the ButterBall were doing their morning wrestle and the fat one got injured...to the point that she is in horrible pain and won't walk on her back leg (which was previously broken as a kitten)

UGH.

My SS15 is inconsolable. This is HIS baby. She is his best friend and he is about to come out of his skin.

The soonest the vet could get us in today is in two hours and 15 minutes from now.

Anyone have vodka?

Summer Food Whinging And the Come to Jesus Meeting

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Color me completely befuddled!

SS15 has been whinging, complaining and being a spoiled little twerp when it comes to food lately. Everytime I turn around he is asking me to go "pick up something decent to eat."

Excuse me? Did we not have that conversation about not having fundage for any extras? Did we not have that conversation about tightening the belt? Did we not have the conversation that SS15 has put on a beer belly lately and needs to cut back or change his habits?

So Flippin' Behind in The Bills/Disabled DH just doesn't get it.

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I am so stressed right now. Being the only one bringing in any substantial money; and being the primary wage earner is NOT how I envisioned my 50s. But here we are.

I have a 15 year old SS who packs away food like two or three grown men. My DH, while working hard on his novels, games, fantasy universe, etc...isn't making any sales, because we can't afford to send him to the conventions or to market properly. I can't keep funneling money to his business when I can barely pay our bills. Which depresses him. Which depresses me.

Just found out BM mentioned a visit this summer

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During the Mother's Day phone call. I guess she told SS15 she was trying to find the money to come visit. She tells him this at least twice a year. I wish like the Dicken's she would stop that crap. It gets his hopes up.

Then, DH tells me; she wants to stay with us.

BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH AHAHAHAHAHA AHAHAHAHAHAHAHA AHAHAHWHWHAHAHAHAH AHAHAHAH AHAHAH

NO

NEVER AGAIN.

NOT HAPPENING.

Then she can't afford to come.
Fine with me. She needs to get her finances straight then. Cos I am NOT her bed and breakfast.

Summer has begun...and SS15 is a Summer teen ARGGH

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One of my biggest pet peeves with my SS15 is his oppositional nature and backtalk. It doesn't matter what I say to him or ask him to do; he has an argument or sometime smart to say back. It has gotten to be problematic.

Yesterday, we as a family went to the movie. Finally got to see Guardians of the Galaxy 2 (Chris Pratt...yummy!) He was backtalking and being a little turd prior to leaving. I told him...I was tired of hearing it. He would face consequences if it continued. It did. I didn't say anything; I just looked at his dad and made a motion that let him know I was DONE.

OT/Sex update

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Saturday night, DH wakes me up. He's feeling frisky. Bless his heart. At least he was able to finish. Me? I never even got started.

LOL. I told him, "Dude, I love you. This maybe how it is for a while. Let's just see how things go."

I will admit to you guys, I used to be a very sexual and sensual person. Now I feel almost Asexual. It's really weird. BUT, I love not being sidelined with headaches all the time.

Bless INSERT NAME HERE Heart

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I've been reading some blogs and forum posts. And my head is about to explode.

So many of us here in StepTalk have the same story. "He treats me like a babysitter." "The SKids are disrespectful." "I do everything; but he won't support my authority." yadda yadda yadda.

As you read deeper into the situation you can see definate signs of emotional, if not physical abuse. Yet, she stays. "But I have babies." "But I love him." "But he's a good man." "But, I can't afford to live on my own." But But But.

O/T but a common O/T Sex Drive

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Bless My poor DH's Heart.

We are damned if we do and damned if we don't where the sex drive is concerned lately. My doctor has put me on Topomax to help prevent my migraines...and with it my sex drive has fallen to the sub basement levels. I have NONE. I don't want it. Don't even want to think about it. Things that used to get me hot are totally just "eh".

Then there is DH with him MS meds. So, yeah, he wants sex...but that doesn't mean he is going to be able to finish even if we do have it.

SS15 Broke My Heart Today

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So yesterday...Yes, YESTERDAY, MAY 5th, my SS15 received a package from his BM. I was kind of confused when it came. I looked at DH and said, "What's this about?"

SS15 says, "Oh, I bet it's for Easter. You know she always sends things really late."

But that's not what broke my heart. That just make me chuckle inwardly because he is figuring her out.

Child Support Questions Answered

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Well, Sh...oooooot.

Because the waste of human DNA has never worked a solid day in her flippin' life; and is on SSI, which can not be counted as "income" she wouldn't be required to pay child support based on that.

You know, I look at my husband who is disabled on SSD and who does pay child support for his girls. Then I look at this...person. I try to take the high road; but there are some days when I really wish I could scratch her eyes out.

Now to go back to work supporting her son.

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