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Submitted by Pecanflower on Wed, 01/22/2014 - 10:45am

I have heard many people talk about the "deadbeat dads" out there. But there are so many Deadbeat Mothers too. My SS11 has just such a mother.

I look at the struggles he has with his autism, ADHD, bipolar disorder, and behavior issues and I get frustrated. But then I remember just how rough of a time he has had.

DH laid out on couch resting...again

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Submitted by Pecanflower on Mon, 01/20/2014 - 1:14pm

I just called the house to check in and make sure it was still standing. SS11 is at home from school today for MLK JR Day.

DH said SS was doing okay...not stellar...not bad...just okay. And he said DH was laying down on the couch. Inwardly I groaned. If he is laid out on the couch after "hitting a wall," from cleaning or whatever, that means that dinner will be frozen pizza tonight. Not that I don't like frozen pizza.

Time away for Dad Equals Hell for Me

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Submitted by Pecanflower on Thu, 01/16/2014 - 12:01pm

It's Thursday. That means that tonight, my DH will be heading off to game night. And tomorrow night he will head to Friday Night Magic. I try not to begrudge him this time away. He is the Stay-at-Home Dad to my SS11. And as unpleasant as SS can be, I know that DH NEEDS this time for himself.

The thing is, I never get time for me to go and get away. So I am jealous of his away time. And on top of that, I have two nights ahead of dealing with a snarling, snapping, growling, unpleasant and downright nasty child. He has been really difficult to live with lately.

Oops, My Bad,

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Submitted by Pecanflower on Fri, 01/10/2014 - 1:10pm

:O

Okay, real quick back story. I have nephews, but have never had a child of my own, until I married DH and became SS11's Step Mom. He lives with us full time.

Confession time!

So my SS11 has a tendency to injure himself or do things to make himself sick in order to get attention. Well, he has a loose tooth that has been bothering him. I told him, "BOY! you better not be trying to make that tooth fall out. If you pull that tooth I will ground you to your room for a month! I swear to heaven I will!"

I am tired and sometimes resentful

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Submitted by Pecanflower on Fri, 01/10/2014 - 12:04pm

I hate admitting it. But I am tired. Very tired.
A quick backstory for you. My husband is disabled because of a permanent brain injury and his bipolar disorder. He also has Autism.
My step-son, who lives with us full time, also has Autism, ADHD, and Bipolar disorder.
It seems like every moment I am at home, I am fighting upstream to get my SKID to do his homework, or chores or just to stop running in the house.

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