To give a brief recap of my step-story....for the last several years, BM has been working hard to alienate one SS (she has seemingly given up on the other one because he does not give her the histrionic reactions she craves). She has told him that DH "caused the divorce" and that DH "hates her." This has caused SS to cause drama in our house for the last two years, including screaming, crying fits that are complete inappropriate for a teen.

BM recently posted on multiple public community Facebook sites to complain about how parents insist on getting involved in their children's disputes with others. She crowed on about how she is working to teach her children coping and communication skills so they could resolve their own conflicts. 

I had to laugh at this, because BM is constantly inserting herself into whatever "conflict" SSs have with DH. She has also rushed in to resolve any conflicts they have at school (both children have switched teachers mid-way through the year several times) and on the sports field. 

It hasn’t even been two weeks and BM has already sent DH a message - via Our Family Wizard - that she does not intend to honor their agreement.

The one thing DH got was to alternate Christmas. Previously, BM had every Christmas Eve and Christmas morning, which DH has been disgruntled about for years. DH offered to give BM more child support than he was owed and to reduce his time with BM’s enmeshed pet (overly dramatic SS).

BM has been texting both SSs since Friday evening to plan their vacation. She texted them on Friday night to show them the “treehouse” that sleeps four that they plan to stuff seven people in for three days. Then she texted them again on Saturday to tell them all the things they plan to do while there. Then this morning she texted them to “ask” if she should email the parents of the friends who they want to come with them. DH only has SSs four days a month, why is it that BM always has “urgent” matters to text them about during those four days.