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And now MIL gets involved in DH paying for college

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To update my previous blog, DH replied to BM (via OFW) that he has not been working and cannot contribute to college costs right now. He said if his employment situation changes he can determine a contribution. He pointed out to BM that he never said he would continue to pay CS or take out a loan for SKid. He said if Skid took out a loan and his employment situation improved, he could help pay the loan back.

BM Rewriting History....again

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So, wonder of wonders, SS got into college. He really shouldn't have, because he took remedial English freshman and sophomore years and you are not supposed to be able to enroll in a 4 year state school in our state if you did not take "college prep" English for four years, but maybe his school lied. He's taking "public speaking" as his English requirement this year. He is taking one academic class this year - business math (basically the second half of Algebra 2) - which he got a C- (likely a generously rounded up C-) last semester and currently has a D in.

Why is DH always "surprised"?

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We are in the home stretch with SSs. It seems as if both will graduate in June and we will be done with CS. BM has been pushing both of them to go to "school". One wants to go into a trade and DH (who works in a trade) could get him into a paid apprenticeship program, but BM is pushing him to consider "trade school", which would require tuition and would not provide paid on-the-job learning and would lead to him earning a lower rung credential. The other SS insists he is going to college and is telling everyone now that he is going to "flight school".

Someone's not paying attention - $650 in school fees and fines

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SS owes $650 in school fees. That includes $200 in school lunches purchased, but not paid for (why they keep letting him "buy" lunch, I don't know), $60 in parking tickets, $120 for a "lost textbook" from the 8th grade (he's a high school senior) and two lost chromebooks (one from freshman year and one from junior year). He also hasn't paid the very minor fee ($45) required to play sports ever although he's been allowed to play sports for the past three years. 

Stepson creeping around

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My stepsons are months from turning 18. One no longer comes around because he has a job and a girlfriend. All fine with DH, who now talks to him on the phone fairly regularly. The other one comes around, but barely interacts with DH. He will either sit on the couch and watch loud videos on his phone or sit in his room. The weird thing is that when he sits in his room, he always keeps the door open. I know he knows how to close it, because he always closes it when he leaves the house or when he goes to bed.

It's a grading miracle!

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Semester grades have finally been released for SSs. 

One SS had a D first quarter and a D plus second quarter in English, but his semester grade (the one that goes on the transcript) is miraculously a C+. The note says "assignments - 67%, grade adjusted due to  modified course expectations." 

BM refuses to help SS with bank account

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SS will be 17 in a couple of months. He's been working for six months. Apparently, in all that time, BM has refused to help him get a bank account. Apparently, she requires that he give his check to her and she cashes it and then gives him the money. His employer would like to do direct deposit, so SS has texted DH asking if he can help him get a bank account. My first instinct is that DH should not get involved, but really, what could BM say, "how dare you help SS get a bank account!" They have joint legal custody, so she wouldn't have an argument there.

Now BM has covid and skids are coming over

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For anyone who read my blog about BM trying to use covid to keep skids on Christmas Eve, now BM has covid. She got it at a work trip last weekend. But skids still plan to come over because they tested negative two days ago. We only know this because surly skid sent DH a text saying, "we're all negative." When DH told them to bring masks, skid replied, "I'm not wearing a stupid mask!" Just love being a stepmom...hard to protect a newborn when others don't take health precautions seriously. 

BM cares about covid, just in time for Christmas

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DH's Christmas time with skids is supposed to start tomorrow evening and go through the 27th. For those not familiar with my story, DH fought for years to get the full Christmas Eve / Christmas Day holiday every other year and finally got it by offering BM more CS. BM took the additional money and then immediately told DH she had no intention of following the holiday schedule. She has tried to fight him every year to have skids on Christmas Eve since her family "only" celebrates Christmas Eve. DH's family typically celebrates Christmas Eve as well, but that's another story. 

Skid treats our house like a hotel

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Skids are almost 17. DH has told them that he knows they have plans with friends and despite the fact that he wants to see them, he will understand if they choose not to come on weekends. One texted on Friday and said he was working both days (it's a 20-30 minute drive each way), so wouldn't be coming. DH told him that was okay.