BM has already vowed not to honor mediation
It hasn’t even been two weeks and BM has already sent DH a message - via Our Family Wizard - that she does not intend to honor their agreement.
The one thing DH got was to alternate Christmas. Previously, BM had every Christmas Eve and Christmas morning, which DH has been disgruntled about for years. DH offered to give BM more child support than he was owed and to reduce his time with BM’s enmeshed pet (overly dramatic SS).
DH even agreed to go to co-parenting counseling with her - if SS’s new counselor suggested it - something she refused to take out. DH is convinced that this will never happen, but I think BM will make it happen since she is always so eager to get DH to pay attention to her.
Today, BM sent DH a message saying that she thought SSs would resent not seeing her family for Christmas 2020 and 2022, so she was going to bring it up with the counselor.
This same thing happened last time - the only thing DH got was an agreement that BM only communicate with him in writing. Two weeks later, BM sent him multiple emails saying that she refused to comply.
Also, DH found out that BM contacted his brother months ago to get him to ask SS why he didn’t like coming to our house and his brother did talk to SS and kept this all from DH! This was when BM was trying to collect “evidence” to reduce SS’s time with DH and BIL willingly participated. I was livid at this one. I think BIL can’t be trusted. DH thinks I’m overreacting.