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BF has complete lack of scheduling skills.

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BF has known for two weeks that I was going to be out of town all day tomorrow (Saturday), yet he continued to make commitments even though he will also have both kids (SS and BD). At first I reminded him that I wouldn't be there to watch the kids, and he shrugged me off. So I decided alright buddy, you think you can handle it, fine. Well, it turns out he was counting on his mother coming in for the weekend like she usually does when SS comes to visit. So tonight when she called to let him know she wouldn't be coming because she was sick, he freaked out and called me.

"Isn't it enough that you have man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with?"

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I was just thinking about this phrase, and the implications just irk the heck out of me. When I was 16 I thought I wanted to spend the rest of my life with whatever boyfriend I was with at the time...but I was mature enough to understand that hey, sometimes relationships don't work out, and it's not the next girlfriend's fault. And by no means would I hate her guts because of it or try to make their lives living hell.

"We" and a sarcastic letter to BM

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Apparently the term "we" sets BM off. I'm wondering if this is the same for other BM's or just my SS's. BF sent BM an email stating that "we haven't made plans for SS's birthday yet but we're thinking it might be at a skating rink, bowling alley..." etc etc. BM shot back with, "I hope that by "WE" you mean you and SS because no one else should be involved with his birthday or the planning of it! And I know this is going to be misinterpreted!"

Starting this crap again

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BM thinks everyone should do what she wants with no complaint or input from them. BM told BF at pickup Friday that SS had a lot of homework to do tonight when he got home for visitation, and asked if BF could bring him home half and hour early so he could get started. BF suggested that SS just bring his homework with him so that he could do it here over the weekend. Nope, BM wouldn't let that happen (no explanation as to why, just exercising her "power" over the situation).

Having another baby!

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I found out about a month ago that I'm pregnant with #2! This one is due almost exactly 12 months after DD was due last year. I'm finally beginning to stop freaking out about the idea (it was not planned!) and get excited. BF is, of course, very happy! If he had it his way I'd always be pregnant I think.

BF sent instructions to BM through his lawyer about custody case

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BM has been laying it on thick for months that "SS is so stressed out and upset over the custody situation in court and he just wants it all dropped". BF got news from BM that she finally got a job. He had his lawyer tell her lawyer that if she would provide proof of employment to BF's lawyer and allow someone to inspect her home to ensure it was safe for a child to live in, he would drop the case.

He also told her that the only person that talks about the custody case with SS is her, so if he's "so stressed out" it's because of her.

Praise and "No Child Left Behind"

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SS got his progress report a couple of weeks ago - all A's. A's that I don't think he deserves. You all know that SS has missed at least 20 days of school so far this year due to BM keeping him out of school for no reason, SS pretending to be sick, or him throwing fits and just not wanting to go. He has missed WEEKS of school at a time because he just didn't want to go.

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