BF has known for two weeks that I was going to be out of town all day tomorrow (Saturday), yet he continued to make commitments even though he will also have both kids (SS and BD). At first I reminded him that I wouldn't be there to watch the kids, and he shrugged me off. So I decided alright buddy, you think you can handle it, fine. Well, it turns out he was counting on his mother coming in for the weekend like she usually does when SS comes to visit. So tonight when she called to let him know she wouldn't be coming because she was sick, he freaked out and called me.

He never wanted me to go anyway. It's a volunteer medical clinic where my practice will be giving exams to 200-500 patients for free. He says that it is beneath my position (I used to be a regular nurse but got promoted to surgery coordinator) and because I'm salary, I should never do extra things since I won't be getting paid. I told him I'm sorry but I have a greater sense of responsibility than he does, and since only 6 people besides myself volunteered to go that just furthered my resolve to go help out. It's impossible for 7 people to see 200 much less 500 patients in one day, but we're going to do our best. He has given me nothing but grief about going and now that he has to cancel his obligations for the weekend he started laying it on even thicker. I told him it wasn't my fault that he made these commitments or that his mother got sick. He said he knew, he just didn't understand why I would go when I knew he didn't want me to from the beginning. Finally I just said, "I need to go cook dinner," and hung up.

When he came home I guess he had thought about how much he hurt my feelings because he told me that he wasn't upset or disappointed in me and that he hoped I wasn't mad at him. I just said I'm fine, I'm cooking dinner. I let him pout for about 20 minutes and when I was good and ready, I went over to him and said I'm not mad, it's just all you've given me is grief over this and it's something I really want to do. He said he supported me he just didn't agree with me going.

*SIGH*

ALL of this could have been avoided if he had just done the responsible thing and NOT agreed to do things over the weekend that he KNEW I wasn't going to be here to help out!