Interesting find on SS's medical records!
So we finally got SS's records from his eye doctor, and it turns out he has an eye disease that BF knew nothing about! I have worked in ophthalmology for 5 years - I'm actually a surgery coordinator for a prominent eye surgeon. BM wants us [read: ME] to have no knowledge of SS's medical history or conditions except doing what she tells us to do when it comes to treating him, and sticking to the "limitations" that SHE places on SS due to his "conditions" though we have been given no medical PROOF that these limitations actually exist and she refuses to communicate with BF on when and where SS goes to the doctor. Well, when we heard that SS was prescribed glasses to wear because of an eye condition he has had since birth (we were given no details, just that he was supposed to wear them "most of the time"), and he kept conveniently "forgetting" his glasses at home, we decided to get his ophthalmologic records so that I could see what was going on, how important it really was for him to wear the glasses, and have my facility make a pair for SS that he can wear while he is at our house since his mother is keeping his at home on purpose.
Well I was suprised to find out that SS has cataracts! He's 11 years old! He's had them for about two years, and BF knew NOTHING about it. I can not imagine that the eye doctor wouldn't have told BM about this, because it is VERY rare for a child so young to have cataracts. It's not life-threatening or anything but I was just so amazed that SS would have a condition like this and BM would purposefully keep this information from BF! I get so frustrated... she is so threatened by me, she knows how much experience I have in this field and she is keeping us in the dark about SS's eye conditions on purpose to maintain her control and keep me "in my place". When she finds out that BF got the records she will be furious! Though she has no right to be. I am still more upset that she is purposefully keeping SS's glasses from us to illustrate her power over the situation (which the records clearly state that the glasses should be worn FULL TIME to prevent loss of vision in SS's bad eye), which will have permanent ill-effects on his vision...but this is ridiculous!