SO picks up the kids from school (half day) both kids backpacks are full of the clothes and jackets we've been sending back for a month! (we always send them to school in/with what they wore when we got them) I knew Bm never checks their backpacks, teachers figured no one on BM's time checks their back packs. They only see what the kids take out when they get home (which means they forget homework, behavior charts etc) but make sure BM see sign ups for field trips and after school fun stuff.

skids had their first visit with their new doc today BM has repeated withheld preventative regular medical care as far as we know. These kids have not seen a primary care pediatrician since they were both infants (guessing 5 years) only getting shots at the health dept and BM taking them to the ER.

Last night my ds came home from the weekend at his dads. My ds is 12, a good kid, smart, a comedian of almost adult humor (not inappropriate just kids don't get it adults do but he needs to know when to stop), he's charming,loves to read, and will help me study because he likes to learn wht I'm learning,he's generally lazy not that he lays about but it will do everything he can to not have to do things that are not what he wants to be doing right now. He however always has an excuse for poor choices, breaking rules, not doing or turning in his homework.

I have a line I'm not willing to bend on. Something that to me is essential to a good strong trusting relationship. I've discussed it with SO the first time there was crossing of this line I explained why it was important and a deal breaker. He acted like he got it. Then did it again this time it was plain and simple if this happens again we're done. He did it again I asked him to leave and packed him up when he though I was "acting crazy knock it off" I was polite and calm, he screamed and called me crazy.