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I've taken on too much and the end can't come fast enough.

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I'm so stressed out, money is non-existant, bills are all behind, cs is not being paid, exfil has passed away leaving that whole side of the family now quarreling and exh is having a heck of a time keeping himself together let alone all the other craziness between exmil (his SM) and the aunts, uncles, and cousins. BM's lawyer is a moron and has set a court date for the "grounds hearing" but twice BM has been on the stand and given "grounds" of irreconcilable differences they've been separated 3-4 years now.

I feel forgotten and it hurts so much

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exfil passed away on the 2nd, he was able to make it home on hospice and that was because of me making desperate phone calls as an intern to the ambulance service who took him home because the family was afraid he wouldn't make it home as they were going to have to wait hours for the ambulance to do the transfer I convinced them to get them the next available truck. My exh was with him holding his hand his family filling the house. I got the call within moments of his passing from my bff his cousin. I called my dd and told her then cried.

Exfil has given up

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Exfil is dying. He won't eat or get out of bed, refuses to go see anymore doctors. I know exstepmil is a wreck, exH is a wreck. My mom just lost he bf of 20 years. My bff since jr high lost his mom last year. I'm not ready to start losing parents. I hate that I can't help exh through this, I hate my kids have to lose a grand parent. I'm scared I'll be kept away from this he was my family for 15 years. This hurts my heart so much for all the family and I feel so lost as what to do.

Well that went over well

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Apparently I've had an attitude. I told SO if he doesn't like it he doesn't have to stay here and deal with it. Maybe yeah 60 hour weeks interning without pay, 8-16 hours a week doing my paying job and 2 3 semester hour online classes, sole provider 2 extra kids and a grown ass adult to now deal with, while that grown ass adult plays video games all freaking day might make me R-E-A-L-L-Y resentful.

Hurt SO

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SO ended last night upset over father's day. After my exh finally (3 hours late and not a single response to my texts on f2f at least dd told me what was up). The kids are goin on about their weekend. About the cookout they went to, and dd is having a major hormonal meltdown had chopped 3 inches off her hair (she also just started Prozac for depression a month ago). She's upset about everything and were talking. Ds is asking to get on the computer so I said sure.

No show

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BM never showed to get her kids, she refused to answer SO's text on if/when she planned to get them after her foul mouthed rant. We assume she's getting them after work tomorrow only we both work later than her, so my parents are watching them and she will have to come to me on my time when I say to collect her kids because SO works later than I do. She tried to tell him he was a terrible father for not wanting his kids more and should take lessons from the dads who fight to see their kids more. Please woman please give him more ammo against you.

Because I'm trying not to get mad

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I got SO's kids bikes 2 weeks ago they love them, they were used the neighbors kids had outgrown and free! Now the kids had said they had bikes at their mom's already (we know they did as reported by my spy they were always unsupervised in the road) but the day after they went back and reported they got new bikes BM and GBM took them to wal mart and got them both brand new bikes. Okay yay kids benefited. Now this is starting a pattern, if their dad gets them something BM and GBM do nothing. If I do something they immediately run out and top it.

Not surprised

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Per the brand spanking new CO BM should of picked up the kids at 9am. SO ended up getting called into a one day job (better than nothing) so I'm watching them with the understanding that when 9:30 rolled around and BM hadn't picked them up he would ask her why since that's what she had HER lawyer put and that next time she needs to discuss ahead of time either someone else getting them at 9 or asking him to keep them till 4 (she gets off at 3:30) and per the order he WILL be picking them up on his Fridays at 9am so she needs to either A.

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