Hi, It's been a while since i've been here. I've found myself drinking more than I should so I am trying to express myself and talk more instead of drinking. I'm just venting and trying to have a place to journal that no one can find. 2 weeks after our divorce was final exh came over to my place and told dd she was going to start paying child support and half of daycare costs for the twins or else. I told him to leave and no way is she going to pay she was in school full time and therapy to get over me being married to you!
My divorce is final and I am free of step hell. My girlfriends and I have rented a party bus and we are going to paint the town red come Friday night. I am super excited and I am so thankful this nightmare is over.
The last update I gave was bm adopted the babies and dd started counseling. DD is really struggling and not coping well. She is having nightmares about losing things and not finding them. Her Dr gave her some anti depressants to help but I am only seeing a slight improvement.
About 2 weeks ago dd had the twins. Her water gushed all over the dr who was checking her :O . Baby A was breech so they did a c-section. The babies needed some extra care and oxygen so they went to the nicu. After the babies were born and dd was settled I called dh and let him know. I also told him ss and bm were not allowed at the hospital and not to let them know. He did so now we fighting. SS and bm would have been told just not then. We hadn't picked a family for the babies and dd was emotional. I just wanted some time to sort everything out before the hard decisions were made.
I've been here reading i just don't post. I am not sure what advice I could offer when my life is so upside down. But I get a ton of laughs and advice from you guys. Thanks so much.
My dd was having some contractions and so she was put on bedrest. She is 32 weeks now. The dr wants to hold off for another 4 weeks and then they won't stop labor.
I thought I would stop in and say Hi. My dd is now 23 weeks pregnant. She is the one that got pregnant by my ss and bm threatened to have her arrested if she aborted. She is doing great! No issues so far and she has a round little belly. I know we aren't keeping the babies but it is exciting. The ultrasound showed 2 healthy baby boys. SS now comes back to the house as dh refused to continue visitation outside our home. He tells dd when ss will be coming over and he expects her to find something outside the house to do. She does so that there aren't any problems.
DD is 18 and in high school. She is pregnant with twins from ss. Yeah.....i know. Anyway her and I have been searching for an adoptive family for them and dh is insisting that ss be a part of this and he have a say where the twins go. DD and I want to handle this ourselves and have found a couple we like. They are older and never able to have kids. I think they are perfect but dh is saying he and ss want to find a young couple to raise them (30's compared to the couple dd and I found 40's.
So On Monday DD and I met with a second attorney who came recommended. It wasn't good news. DD could be in a world of trouble. So without my knowledge she went to bm's yesterday and talked with her. She decided to have the babies and put them up for adoption. Bm reassured her she has zero desire to ruin her life. She will never speak of this again once the twins are born. She just wants dd to stay away from SS and the babies to have life. Bm gave her the names of some adoption agencies and some websites to help her.
So after I left here yesterday I made 2 more appointments with criminal attorneys, had some work meetings and took dd to her dr. appointment. I am sorry I wasn't able to answer your questions. DD is NOT impaired in any way. No way could we claim that and get away with it. I wasn't calling my dd trash just that I felt like trash. It was a bad choice of words and I was having a low point. I won't use it again. I can't remember all the questions asked so if you have one please ask here and I will answer.
I just can't. I really can't. I am a professional and feel that I am living in a twilight zone with a bunch of trashy ass people! And my dd has become part of the trash!! How did this happen?? Where did I go wrong as a parent and human? I just want to run away but I can't.