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Loan Cosign

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So last night BD was watching videos on DH's phone.  DH was in the shower and a text comes through.  It's from SD talking about student loans.  So I confront DH about it.  As I posted previously SD19 decided to go back to college and needs to obtain student loans and needs a cosinger and DH did it without speaking to me about it.  SD has not proven herself responsible.  We bought a brand new car for SD and we had 2 rules no drinking and driving and no smoking.  Well there's burn holes in the seat, there were pictures posted online of her drinking behind the wheel and we found drugs in the c

In-Laws

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I've talked about my MIL being a pot stirrer with SD.  Well yesterday MIL & FIL stopped by unannounced.  First of all I had just woken up.  Our BD has been sick for a week and I haven't been sleeping much.  DH got up with her on Sunday morning and let me sleep in.  I walked downstairs to see MIL & FIL sitting in our kitchen.  They said they were in the neighborhood and wanted to stop by and see BD.  So the first thing out of FIL mouth was "Did you see your husband's ex-wife got married?"  I said "huh?" since I'm just waking up not completely functioning yet.  He said again "Did you

SD going to college

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So I guess SD is going to go register for college.  I'm happy that she is thinking about getting her life in order.  However I'm not confident that it's going to work out.  We've been down this road.  She did the college courses during high school and just never went to school and failed all courses.  She has been fired from 9 jobs due to calling off/no shows.  She now works for DH and she calls of a minimum of once a week.

BD Birthday

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We had BD's 2nd birthday over the weekend.  SD showed up 2 hours late when the party was almost over.  She ate, she stayed about 45 minutes and left.  She currently works full time & she told DH that she couldn't afford to buy BD a gift.  Now mind you she's two, she doesn't ask for anything and honestly doesn't need anything.  However BD couldn't cough up $5 to buy her a stuffed animal?  BD is covered in tattoos and piercings, she drinks daily, she's s a heavy smoker, she just went on vacaiton with her friends yet she couldn't afford to buy your sister anything?  Maybe I'm petty, maybe

Spending Money

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Ok so do I have a right to feel upset?  DH & I have joint checking/joint savings/credit cards.  I handle all the finances in our house and I work very hard to keep everything in check.  DH insisted on having CASH to buy Xmas gifts for me so he didn't have to charge my gifts b/c I would see the charges.  He took said cash but still charged ALL of my Christmas gifts.  When I asked him where the cash went to he says he bought SD a gas card for Xmas and then gave her some cash for Xmas on top of the items he purchased for her with the credit card.  He said the rest of the money he just blew

Christma

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SD19 is so rude and disrespectful I just can't even handle it.  I had to say something to DH on Christmas Eve and I didn't care if it started an arguement.  As we are sitting there Christmas Eve with MIL & FIL SD is sitting there next to her grandma vapping while opening Christmas presents.  Seriously you need to vape that bad that you can't take an few minutes out of your morning to open Christmas presents with your family without vapping?  I said something to DH about it and as I said something to DH grandma finally had enough and told her to put it away.  She didn't like that so she

SD Christmas

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So over the weekend I sat down with DH and I told him "By now I'm sure you can see that I haven't done anything for SD for Xmas and I didn't do anything for her bday."  I said "I just want you to understand why.  I just can't take the lack of respect she has and her attitude toward me."  He told me that it destroys him that I am acting this way and if he can change one thing about his life it would be the relationship I have with his daughter.  He continued to tell me how he doesn't understand how nothing she does makes me happy and nothing she can do will ever change my opinion of her.  I

Thank yous

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I was just talking with my mom today and earlier this month she gave DH a card with a cash gift for SD for her bday.  SD never reached out to my mom or my dad to tell them thank you for the gift.  No text message, phone call or thank you card.  I didn't expect her to mail a thank you card but I did expect her to pick up the phone and call and say thank you or at least text them.  

SD Bday

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Well I stuck to my word finally.  I have been telling DH for years that I was done doing Christmas, bdays, Easter etc for SD.  I finally stuck to my word.  SD's bday came and went and I did nothing.  No party, no cake, no cooking, no presents.  SD's bday was on Saturday, MIL called on Sunday to tell us that we were all going to dinner to celebrate SD's bday.  DH went and got the card and stopped and got a gift card on the way to dinner.  SD got a $50 gift card this year.  That $50 gift card is nothing compared to years past.

MIL Stirring the pot part 2

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So SD's bday came and went.  The day before her bday my MIL showed up unannounced at something we had planned for BD.  BD is not even 2 yet and is just starting to talk.  After our event MIL says let's go to dinner.  I reluctantly went to avoid an argument with DH.  The minute we walk in MIL says to BD "do you know how to sing yet?  You need to learn how to sing b/c we need to sing Happy birthday to sissy, happy birthday to sissy, happy birthday dear sweet sissy happy birthday to sissy."   I'm pretty sure steam started to come out of my ears.  Why?  Why the need to say something like that? 

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