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How do you get over the hurt?

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Submitted by capp1978 on Mon, 04/23/2018 - 11:06am

How do you get over the hurt and the anger toward Skids.  I can not get past my resentment for SD.   The girl who tells me I'm a bitch, the one who has told me to my face she hated me, the girl that told DH please divorce that bitch, the girl who has caused more fights and issues with DH & me, the girl that almost caused me to walk away from my marriage, the girl that said she couldn't live under neither DH/BM's roof for one day past the age of 18.  She has since moved out of our home and life is great.  I rarely see her, only seeing her 2 times this year and both times I get this pit i

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Submitted by capp1978 on Mon, 03/19/2018 - 10:59am

As I've posted previously SD18 moved out on her 18th bday (over 3 months ago).  She hated our home so much she couldn't stay one more day.  I've only seen her twice since she's moved out which one was Christmas.  SD is still in high school and she is still on BM's health insurance and we pay 1/2 of the cost of the monthly insurance.  I sent it up to send from our checking account on a monthly basis.  SD is saying she does not plan on attending college.  I asked DH what her plans where for her future and he said she plans on becoming a tattoo artist.  I know that not everyone has to go to co

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Submitted by capp1978 on Mon, 02/26/2018 - 12:36pm

SD now 18, who moved out still gets the best of me. She hasn't stepped foot back in our house since she moved out in December on her 18th bday. Which is great for me. However she tagged DH in several pictures on her Facebook album titled "my senior year" over 1/2 of the pictures are her drinking. Really dude? Your posting photos of yourself and 5 out of 10 of them you have a beer in your hand, your still in high school and you are tagging your father! When I saw it I showed DH and he refused to even look and got mad at me for showing them to him.

Tonight's Dinner

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Submitted by capp1978 on Tue, 01/23/2018 - 3:13pm

DH calls today to tell me we are going out to dinner tonight. When I asked why he said b/c SD called and wants to do dinner tonight. WTF? Again, b/c she wants something. She wants us to pay for her dinner. We have seen her twice since she moved out almost 2 months ago (which don't get me wrong I could care less if I ever see her again). She came come over the day after she moved out to show of her new tattoos and on Christmas (b/c she wanted her gifts). I'm now in an instant bad mood. I'm thinking of skipping out on dinner, going home and napping instead.

SD only contacts when she needs something

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Submitted by capp1978 on Wed, 01/10/2018 - 3:38pm

As I wrote previously SD moved out on her 18th bday. She said that she couldn't live one more day under our roof. However she came back over the very next day and she couldn't afford gas in her car so hubs gives her our credit card. YES our credit card to put gas in her car. I didn't even know this until I saw our statement. Do you think she may have put in a few dollars in order to get her to where she needs to be and had money herself? No she fills her tank. Then the very next day she is posting photos of her tattoos on Facebook and Instagram.

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Submitted by capp1978 on Tue, 12/05/2017 - 11:00am

So on Saturday we had a bday dinner for SD18. I do this stuff for my husband, not her. It makes him happy. So since SD moved out earlier in the week she is coming over to our house for a family dinner. I asked her to stop at the store and pick up something we needed on her way, it would have cost less than $2. She told me sorry I can't afford it. I said well I can give you $2 then. She said ok but can I take your car, I can't afford the gas in my car. DH reaches in his pocket and gives her the cash to go get gas and what we needed.

SD18 have moved out

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Submitted by capp1978 on Mon, 12/04/2017 - 12:38pm

It's official she is out of the house. I came home to her room being mostly emptied. If the remainder of her stuff doesn't get moved by the end of the week it's going to Goodwill. SD didn't tell BM she was moving out. They talked about it but she never told her for certain she was moving out and when. BM came home to her house to find SD's room emptied. BM had a fit and told SD that she's canceling her car insurance and cell phone. If she wants to be an adult and out on her own she needs to learn responsibility. SD is having a fit.

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Submitted by capp1978 on Tue, 11/28/2017 - 10:48am

SD turns 18 this week and asked for boxes so she could start packing her belongings. DH says she is moving out the day of her 18th bday. I have such mixed emotions about this. On one had I couldn't be happier to get her out of the house. On the other hand I think wow what a slap in the face. You think we're so rotten to you b/c we have SOME rules that you can't stay one day past your 18th bday?

SD turns 18 in 2 Weeks

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Submitted by capp1978 on Thu, 11/16/2017 - 11:47am

SD turns 18 in 2 weeks and says she is moving out. I pray that this is happening but I keep thinking it's too good to be true. SD has a lot of pipe dreams. I told DH I would happily pack her bags. I have also been secretly stocking up on cheap body wash, tooth paste, shampoo etc. to give to her as a bday gift to help her on her way to her new home.

Xmas Time & BM Needs cash

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Submitted by capp1978 on Wed, 11/15/2017 - 11:31am

BM is trying to backdate bills for SD 17. She is trying to get DH to pay for 1/2 of SD car insurance back to January. DH told her when she started driving the agreement was SD was to pay her own car insurance. For some reason BM started paying it and now wants us to pay her back 1/2 the money she paid toward the car insurance! DH told her no that's your own fault for paying it, we never agreed to pay the car insurance to begin with.

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