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SD turns 18 in 2 Weeks

capp1978's picture

SD turns 18 in 2 weeks and says she is moving out. I pray that this is happening but I keep thinking it's too good to be true. SD has a lot of pipe dreams. I told DH I would happily pack her bags. I have also been secretly stocking up on cheap body wash, tooth paste, shampoo etc. to give to her as a bday gift to help her on her way to her new home.

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WalkOnBy's picture

I assume she has already graduated high school??

If she really is moving out in two weeks, shouldn't she already have found a place to live??

capp1978's picture

She has not graduated high school. She supposedly is moving in with someone. That's her master plan. She said she can't live under our roof any longer. You know b/c I tried to instill rules in our home, like no drinking in our house, no smoking cigarettes at our house, no drugs in our house etc. You know really tough rules to follow.

WalkOnBy's picture

is she still IN high school or has she dropped out?

And, yeah, how DARE you impose those draconian rules on her!!!!

capp1978's picture

She is still in high school for now. She was currently taking college courses (she is intelligent just not smart) but said it's too boring and not her style. She said she's thinking of quitting. Not sure if that means dropping out or just going back to the high school. I don't ask questions.

I am a horrible horrible person. I mean it would be totally cool to let her and her friends get plaster and high at my house every night and possibly everything I have worked for.

WalkOnBy's picture

oh FFS -she is well on her way to failure and teenaged pregnancy.

And yes, you suck for not letting her make meth in your kitchen sink Smile

Thumper's picture

capp1978 DO NOT WAVER from rules inside your home. NO matter who it is.

We use to be told that we have awful rules, NONE of their friends parents have rules and of course BM wasn't anything like us.

YOUR right skids, she isn't ANYTHING like us, is what we thought.

Capp1978, you may want to start thinking about boundaries IF she pops up pregnant. OR lands in jail. Are you willing to take her in OR post bail?

sorry your dealing with this.

capp1978's picture

My husband already bailed her out once. Next time BM can bail her out or one of her so called friends. I'm sure BM will love to be a grandma and take care of that grandbaby.

ProbablyAlreadyInsane's picture

Oh of my thoughts as well, as bad as it sounds, is if she's moving in with someone to avoid rules, she's not thinking about responsibility and could likely end up pregnant...

Good luck with this mess and keep us updated!

capp1978's picture

It's exactly what she is doing avoiding the rules. Her reasoning is she doesn't want to live in 2 different households anymore. Her parents have taught her absolutely no responsibility/accountability for anything. When I tried to teach her about money, budgeting and savings she ended up taking her bank account to another bank so I didn't have access to it. She kept one penny in the account to keep it open so her dad could easily transfer money to her. She thought she was being cute until I closed the account. She got a traffic ticket recently and didn't have the money to be able to afford it so mommy paid for it and is now trying to collect 1/2 that money from DH & I. We're not paying for her damn traffic ticket. Now if either BM or DH would have taught her about saving money for a rainy day mommy wouldn't have had to pay for that and try to collect from us. But I guess that doesn't matter b/c even if she would pay for the ticket she wouldn't have money left for her fast food, her nails, her cigarettes, her beer, her gas money etc so she'll call mom, dad or grandma for more money to pay for those things.

ProbablyAlreadyInsane's picture

Best case scenario is she moves out and learns how to be a responsible human being... But the most likely scenario is she crashes and burns and comes running back wanting you all to bail her out again. I really hope your DH doesn't fall for that crap. If BM wants to cool, but hold firm that rules need to be a staple in your home!

Thumper's picture

capp1978 sorry I just read your response.

What was she arrested for already???

This is not good CAPP1978

Sorry to read this.

capp1978's picture

Theft