Well I stuck to my word finally. I have been telling DH for years that I was done doing Christmas, bdays, Easter etc for SD. I finally stuck to my word. SD's bday came and went and I did nothing. No party, no cake, no cooking, no presents. SD's bday was on Saturday, MIL called on Sunday to tell us that we were all going to dinner to celebrate SD's bday. DH went and got the card and stopped and got a gift card on the way to dinner. SD got a $50 gift card this year. That $50 gift card is nothing compared to years past.
I did things SD besides on Holidays. I tried, I really tried. Maybe just maybe when she has no presents to open on Christmas b/c DH only got her another gift card she'll realize just how much I did do for her.