My Dh is out of town for the next month for work. He'll be home before Christmas. I didn't realize how much stress my ss3 and sd2 put on me until he was leaving. I was very sad because I love Dh so much, but on the other hand I'm fucking ecstatic because i don't have to be terrorized by his toddlers for A MONTH!!!
I’m going to skip the history of the situation and go straight to my vent and would appreciate any feedback.
My partners son is 13 and has a pretty severe case of ADHD. I thought I could handle it and after living together it really opened my eyes to the severity and I became very overwhelmed and depressed and as a result it put a strain on me and my partners relationship. I have a five year old boy who is very active and social and I became very aware and worried of the negative influence his son was having on mine. We obviously raised our children very differently as most parents do but the result of that was rubbing off on my son.
I have been married to my DH for a year now and am so frusterated that he Tells his SS 16 everything and lets him do anything. There are no boundaries. Probably because i feel like i need to be a people pleaser. I try my ass off but then just get disrespected. I have had to throw away some stuff (adult stuff)in our room cuz he looks through our room for lint removers, socks, or whatever. I dont want to call it white lies but he will kinda lie abt things like buying shoes and then throwing away the evidence.
A very long story short ...... my partner of 8 years has full custody of his 9 year old son, the son lives with his nan (partners mother) and she has brang him up. When I say brang him up I mean we aren’t allowed a say in his life, she has completely controlled everything !! Now she is completely attached as if he was her own and same for the boy. Anyway.... we have him whenever we can weekends and holidays, this boy has EVERYTHING he wants, he is VERY spoilt!
We also have a nearly 5 year old boy together and I’m also currently pregnant and expecting a girl!
I need to vent.
I can't stand when people say "well you knew what you were signing up for!" or "love him, love his kid!"
No. This kid is an entitled little douche. And it's because of shit parenting from my husband, his ex wife and the village that is raising this child.
He's going to be the death of my sanity and my marriage. I'm sitting here googling "how to get a divorce" because something so seemingly insignificant is what did it for me.
Let’s just start off from the beginning. I knew my now husband two years ago I came over for game night with my significant other at the time and he was with his wife and children. I have a daughter of my own and we were invited over for a game night. I was attracted to my husband and he was me but we never voiced it. My significant other and I broke up. And not too long after my husband and his Now ex-wife were legally separated and starting to get divorced. We became friends for about a year. And then we dated and got married and everything was great.
This is my first post so its going to be a little long. So my fiancé, his son and I live together. When I first moved in there was a plumbing issue in the apartment that caused a lot of damage to his personal items. So I adjusted and we were all sleeping In the same room. As time passed I realized that he wasn’t letting his son go to his own room at all. So I asked nicely and he turned it into a big argument about me wanting him to push his son away and out of the room. Let me make it clear his son loves me and I do too.