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DH is facing the facts

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My DH is finally seeing the result of his inaction with SD18. She will be 19 this year, has no plans to work, go to college, or otherwise provide for herself. She is intolerable to be around, and doesn't want a relationship with DH, just money. She only calls him when she wants something. It is starting to sink in, and he is questioning his parenting of her all these years. I'd like to say part of me is happy, but its so damned sad.

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O/T - my estranged mom fell

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This iis off topic, but I really need to get some feedback, if you are game. My elderly mom, who I have not spoken to in 10 years, lives in another state and recently fell and broke some ribs. She is a tough old bird, like all the women in my family, and very stubborn. My little sister has 2 young children and lives out of state too, bt she is within driving distance - about 6 hours each way, I think.  Its not an easy drive with a new baby and a young child. 

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SD's are so entitled.

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So, the SD's came over this weekend, after being at BMs for 3 weeks due to a mystery illness that sounded like mono. SD18 crept in like a ghost, hiding in her room and looking like she didn't want anyone to even look at her. (Depressive episode, maybe?) She didn't speak a word to me. She mostly slept all weekend.

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Spiritual Negativity and wayward ghosts....

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Ok. This is going to sound wierd to some of you, if you are not spiritual, or if you have different beliefs, thats ok. You can skip this blog and write me off as a "hoo-ha wacko." LOL.  So, for as long as I can remember, I have always been spiritually sensitive and seen /heard spirits on occasion. I am affected by certain places, and I avoid certain homes and places because of they way they "feel" to me.  I am by no means a full-blown medium, but I like to call it a "glimmer" of what those people have.

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SD18 now wants to live in a van...down by the river!

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SD18 is just returned from a relaxing week at the beach with her mom, sisters and alcoholic grandparents. BM took off while they were all swimming in the ocean, and left with her boyfriend without telling anyone where they were going. SD20 apparently got stuck watching the younger cousins to make sure they didn't drown, Since SD20 is usually high as a kite on some drug or another, this seems like a bad choice on BM's part. So.... now that SD18 is back, she is in a manic phase of her bipolar, calling her dad every hour asking if he has found her a van to live in yet.

Just watching the Skid circus unfold

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So, the SD's left for their BM's house yesterday and DH got called into work for an emergency, so I had the afternoon and the house to myself. SD's wanted my sympathy because they had to get up at noon to be at their BM's house for a picnic gathering of BM's boyfriend and BM's boyfriend's kids. BM is having fantasies of living together and getting married and having a blended family....and living happily ever after. BWAHAHAA!  Sorry. I tried to stifle that evil laughter but it just came out.

SD's getting on my nerves

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I am staying disengaged, but my SD's are really getting on my nerves this week. SD18 is not cleaning up her dishes, pots n pans, etc. She and her sister, SD16 love to constantly try to tell me how our house should look, where furniture should go, where I should keep on the kitchen counter vs in the pantry. They nitpick every little thing about my cat, saying that she needs her nails trimmed EVERY time they come over, or suggest giving her a bath. This is because they want to do these things because they are bored, and my cat is just a "plaything" for them.

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Disengaging fully - May the odds be ever in my favor

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I started therapy with a new therapist today, regarding problems with SD that DH willfully ignores, She recommended that I disengage fully on the topic of SD18 going to family therapy. SD and DH can't do anything on this front, without constant reminders from me.

So, I am disengaging and letting the hunger games begin. Me and the cat will have to rely on eachother for the next few weeks. She and I both retreat to a quiet bedroom when the skids come over. I am too proud to hide under the comforter like she does, though. Hehe.  

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