Ugh. So DH and I have been kicking the idea around of taking a cruise to the Caribbean together.
We haven't taken a vacation in 2 years due to buying the house, so I was excited....until he gave me a dollar figure. It was way too high to be for just the two of us, although the skids almost never come over anymore. I asked why it was so expensive for just the two of us? He said
"Oh, well I thought SD 16 could come....and maybe SD19?
Its a new year, and let's hope for the best. Things with DH and SD's have been fairly tame lately, thank goodness.
I got home from work yesterday and DH called me as I was pulling into the driveway. He had to go to the pharmacy to get his medication because he was out. He always wants me to go with him on the drive to run errands. He knows I don't like running errands after work unless absolutely necessary. I usually get all my stuff done on the weekends so I don't have to worry about it when I am tired.
I was just curious if a father gets a paternity test for his kids, (or finds out through DNA testing that is so popular these days) and it turns out he is not their father - can he sue the mother for the return of all the child support that he paid her?
My skids both got DNA tests for Christmas from Bm. Its surprised me because she cheated on their dad throughout their marriage. I always wondered if those kids were his. But I think that he would have to take the same brand DNA test to see if there is any relation, right?
Big surprise, I thought maybe SD19 had the sense not to ask for anything this Christmas, since her and her sister were so awful to us during Thanksgiving. But no. She tells DH she wants money for Christmas, or nothing. He asked what she needed it for, wondering if BM was pressuring her for rent. She said "Oh, this and that." So, basically video games, art supplies for her home projects, and other things that distract her from the fact that she doesn't have a job, a car, or a drivers license and plans to live with BM forever.
My DH recently had an epiphany and realized that he has not been a parent all these years to SD's, but instead tried to be a friend -mainly because he was terrified of BM and of losing the love of his daughters. He has begun to set healthy boundaries with them, as well as his sister, who recently got suckered into defending SD21, aka the sociopath. SD21 wanted to come over to our house for Thanksgiving and see her sisters, but she is banned from our house due to her lack of apology for many of the disrespectful things she has done to me.
I am finally recovering from Covid. This is the first time I've ever had it, and it sucks. Thanks work "bro" for coughing into my desk fan days before Thanksgiving! I hope you get herpes for Christmas!
Dh had an epiphany after his daughter, 21, sent his crazy tempered sister after him via group text. He said he had chest pains and felt like he didn't care if he died, then a wierd sensation overtook him. He said he realized he had been too afraid to piss off his daughters, so he hadn't stood up to them like he should have. He decided to rewrite his rulebook about his kids.
This is an update on the big lie. When DH got home from work yesterday, he said his sister (who was supposed to come over with her husband and sons for Thanksgiving) sent him a long, irate text. She said he needed to get his head out of his a$$ or he would lose his family. He is not sure why she is suddenly full of hate towards us, unless of course, SD21 called her aunty and wailed about him not allowing her to Thanksgiving, and then repeated the big lie. Great! Now I have more psychos that hate me for no reason.
Dh and I got ambushed last night. I fully believe it was a planned attack by the three SD's. When the harpy twins SD16 and SD18, screamed accusations and insults at me a few weeks ago, one of the questions that SD asked me was "If SD21 wanted to come over for holidays, would you be willing to let her?" I told her that is up to SD21.