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SD15 is here, 1st visit in 6 months

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Submitted by ksmom14 on Wed, 02/03/2021 - 2:16pm

It's been a while since I've done an update on the SD15 situation. Quick synopsis if you don't want to read my past blogs is all skids lived here primarily, but SD15 was mean/rude to us and DD5&3 and we told her enough was enough back in August. She decided to go live with BM instead of attempting to be nice to the people in our home. DH reached out a few time and SD never wanted to come visit and always had BS excuses. My last blog was about how she wanted to come visit for Xmas but only to stay 2 days, one of which we'd be at my in laws the whole time.

SD15 - gone 4 months but coming for Xmas

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Submitted by ksmom14 on Mon, 12/07/2020 - 4:38pm

Basically all my blogs lately have been about SD15, her crappy attitude and her disappearance from our home. Which looking back has been great, I am more relaxed, no doom and gloom cloud over the household :) 

I do feel bad that she doesn't want to be here, because we've done nothing wrong to make her want to shun us so much and it's frustrating, but I've moved past that finally.

Then of course Christmas reared it's ugly head!

SD15 still gone - 12 weeks

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Submitted by ksmom14 on Mon, 11/02/2020 - 1:54pm

Just wanted to come on for a sanity check I guess...

My last few blogs have just been about SD15, she has been with BM since mid August because of her choice as well as her attitude.

She does not reach out to DH at all, and basically does not respond much either. 

DH and I discussed this situation a couple weeks ago with some general thoughts like these:

1. should DH make her come visit?

2. does it make sense to allow a moody 15 year old to make life decisions like this

SD15 still gone - 6 weeks

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Submitted by ksmom14 on Tue, 09/22/2020 - 9:37am

So if you've read my other blogs, you've seen that SD15 was given the choice to go to BMs because she's been treating everyone in our home like crap, and had to either go, or start treating people like humans. 

So it's been 6 weeks now, and she has not said anything about wanting to come back or even visit.

Update - DH gave SD15 the option to leave

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Submitted by ksmom14 on Wed, 08/12/2020 - 3:06pm

So after some talks DH learned from BM that SD15 acts the same way at her home. Sounds like BM actually comes down on SD15 more than we ever have for it.

convo between DH and SD15:

DH: have you put some thought into what you want

SD15: it's no my choice it's BM's

DH: so if you got to choose you'd pick going to live with BM instead of just trying to be nice to us the 15 minutes a day you see us?

SD15: yup

DH: ok *then walked away

DH and BM talked and BM offered to let SD15 stay for a couple months to see how it goes. 

OT - Graduation announcements

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Submitted by ksmom14 on Mon, 04/20/2020 - 1:24pm

Even though SS18 (probably) won't have a graduation ceremony...he's still graduating and we are working on announcements.

DH and I thought it would be fun to just write something silly on the announcement, since there isn't actually ceremony info to list.

DH suggested "he's still graduating, ceremony or not!"

Anybody have any suggestions or clever ideas?

Thanks in advance! 

OT - Recipe request

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Submitted by ksmom14 on Wed, 04/08/2020 - 8:20am

So I was able to find a 25pound bag of all purpose flour at Costco yesterday, but still no luck finding (regularly priced) yeast.

Any recipes y'all have to use this flour?! Not just bread, I'm open to anything, muffins, busicuits...what do y'all have!

I have most of the other normal baking stuff, baking powder, baking soda, sugar, brown sugar, powdered sugar, shortening, butter, etc.

 

BM's hours cut in 1/2

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Submitted by ksmom14 on Sun, 03/29/2020 - 11:44am

Info: divorce decree says 50/50 parenting no CS either direction. 7 years ago when this was established BM couldn't hadle 50% so BM and DH agreed he would keep skids, and BM would get visitation every other weekend. They also agreed she would pay $700 a month for CS (even tho this was at least $300 less than what the state would set). They wrote up their own agreement, both signed it, and filed it with their other divorce documents even tho its unenforceable because its didnt get signed off by judge. Things have been fine and status quo for 7 years now.

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