DD4 finally is noticing that SD14 doesn't like her
SD14 has been distant and dismissive to everyone in the house for years now. Anytime someone asks her something or says something to her, she not only looks at you like she just hates you, but her response is just dripping in a rude tone.
DH has brought this up to her over and over again, and she just always says, I"m just tired, I'm not upset or trying to be rude, it's just how I talk. Etc. Etc. and honestly I mostly beleive her because she talks/acts like that all the time, even when we do something nice for her and I can see she's happy about it. Doesn't make it better, but DH and I have both learned to just live our lives and not let her attitude ruin our days.
Anyways, she's always acted this way towards DD4 and DD2, but even more so. In the past she would just completely ignore them, even if they directly spoke to her, if they would try to come give her a hug she would back up and say "eww" then claim it was because they had dirty hands (sometimes true but not always). Anyways a while ago DH got onto her about that and now she at leasts responds to them when they ask her stuff, but it's still in a really rude tone, and mumbling most of the time.
Well today, totally unprovoked DD4 just starts rattling off at her "SD14 why don't you talk to us, why don't you play with us. That's what big sisters do, why don't you do that SD14? Why don't you tlak to us? SS18 plays with us, he talks to us, why don't you?"
I don't know if DH and I should do anything....or even if there is anything for us to do. It just makes me so sad. I hope she doesn't feel less than because her own sister treats her like sh!t. Oh and for the record SS18 is AWESOME with the little girls, he's so sweet with them and plays with them all the time even though I can tell they drive him nuts sometimes, he's very patient. Also skids are with us 50/50 these days during the pandemic, but before that they were with us 70% of the time, so it's not that SD14 just isn't around enough.