First of all thanks so much to all that commented with advice and reached out thru PM on my last blog. I was feeling very lost and down.
DH and I actually had a really good weekend, in and out of the bedroom lol
This tends to happen where things seem to be looking up for a short time so I decide to not ruin the good momentum by talking to DH about the issues that are bothering me but I decided not to do that this time.
Surprisingly this isn't really step related, however I don't really know who to talk to right now so I'm posting here.
Before school started, so mid August, I took SD14 and SD16 shopping for clothes. SD16 picked out one pair of pants and 2 shirts, I tried to get her to get more, even offered to take her to a different place, but she said no. SD14 who is very self conscious about how thin she is found 5 pairs of pants, 5 shirts, and a sweatshirt. SD14 wore these clothes MAYBE 4 times each, and has since not worn the pants or sweatshirt. She started wearing only leggings which I assume came from BM's house.
DH called BM yesterday to try to discuss with her SD14 dropping out of the specialized high school. As expected from what we've heard, BM is open to the possibility of SD14 dropping out of the specialized HS, but is totally against SD14 going to our town HS. BM thinks that if she drops out, she needs to move in with BM and go to BM town HS.
DH has primary custody, skids go to BM's every other weekend Thursday evening to Monday morning. Well at least SD16 and SD14 do, SS17 has a job in our town so he only goes to BM's every other Thursday night and is back Friday.
SD14 followed SD16's footsteps to apply for, and get accepted to a specialized high school in our district. It's a challenging program that when completed leaves them with their high school diploma as well as an associates degree, with literally ZERO cost.
DH is out of town on a trip with his family (not the issue here, I encouraged him to go).
I've been at home taking care of DD2, DD3, plus the 3 teenage skids.
I can't beleive I actually typed it out...the couple beers probably helped...
DH and I have been struggling lately, for about 10 months I'd guess.
DH is not a bad person, but I've been feeling that he just does not treat me the way I deserve to be treated. I feel like I do so much for him and yet he just asks for more, and more, and more.
This may get long, I'll try to keep it consise...3 skids (SS17, SD16, SD14) and 2 DDs (DD3, DD2) DH is primary, skids go to BM's every other weekend (other than SS17 he always stays with us becuase he works in our town). BM used to be very absent mom, would pass skids off to her mom on her weekends, constantly ask for swtiches, or late pick ups, etc. She then had a baby with her BF and they moved in, since then she's become....better. DH and I still do all appointments, any school issues, etc.
So this isn't really step related...isn't associated with skid issues, but DH and I have REALLY been struggling lately.
I don't really have anyone in my personal life to talk to about it so here I am.
I've been seriously considering divorce and if it's the right thing for us to do. I don't hate him, but I feel like if that's where we're heading it would be better to do it when we don't hate each other and are super bitter towards each other so that we can be amicable.
SS17 got a job about 9 months ago, it's been really great for him in that he's finally learned some responsibility for himself and it's helped him come out of his shell a bit. The downside is he's been working A LOT of hours, it's gotten up to a scheduled 30 hours a week, working about 6 days a week. DH kept telling him to make sure it wasn't interferring with his school work, as that is the priority, but SS has liked the bigger paychecks and has not reduced his hours.