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13 Year Old Horney Boy + FB = Smack Down

KinaTina357's picture

If you read my posts, you know my SD 13 is really mature for her age in most areas. The one area she is still at an appropriate maturity level is when it comes to boys. She still covers her eyes and says "eww" when people kiss in the movies. I know it won't last much longer, but I'm happy that's where she is right now. She does seem to enjoy having the title of being a girlfriend however, as she has had several "boyfriends" throughout the school year. She never spends any time with them, or event talks to them much on the phone, I think it's more of a FB/school hall status thing. Her most recent boyfriend is from her choir and asked her via FB after school was out. They haven't seen each other since school let out and apparently the kid wants to go to a movie. After I peeled SO of the wall and calmed him down about his baby going on her first date, we told her she could go. SD seems really uninterested and has blown the kid off for over a month now on the date thing, I think she tells him she's not allowed to go. The bf decided he would take it upon himself to friend SO and I on FB, I'm assuming to "win us over" and get his date.

You'd think the kid would be aware that we see everything he posts. Not only does he post 50 times a day, he cusses like a sailor and every other post is sexual in some way. He posted a meme that said " Share if you're into kinky stuff," then there was something about wrestling with his sister and how she tea-bagged him when she won, and then a cuddling after sex post. I really don't think this kid is sexually active at all so this is laughable but really!? So his last post was:

" I'm a make-out virgin and I am really looking forward to having a 3 hour make out session soon"- Feeling hopeful.

I finally had to say something so I replied and said " you do realize you're friends with your girlfriends parents right?"

He responds "So now being honest is wrong?"

I responded " Well let's see, you want to take our 13 year old daughter out, she needs our permission to go out, you friend us for some reason and then you think it's a good idea to post about wanting to make out for 3 hours and tea-bagging your sister while cussing up a storm. You're not the brightest bulb in the box are you?"

His Mom: "HAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHA you hit his nail RIGHT on the head!!!!"

He cleaned up his account after all of his little friends laughed at the post, he had to explain that he did not tea-bag his sister and SD thinks she's just going to break up with him anyway because he calls too much and it annoys her.

Kids today!!

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KinaTina357's picture

Fortunately SD is really cautious of people so I'm not too worried about her. It wouldn't hurt to have a sit down with her. I think a part of me is hoping he's just a horney boy on FB and really has no idea what he's talking about. His mom seems pretty decent lol.

KinaTina357's picture

This is the first encounter I've had wit this situation. You have a good rule. I don't mind being friends with the skids. It helps me keep an eye on them I suppose but who knows what the teen years will bring. I was ok with SD going to a movie that we dropped her off and picked her up at. Mostly because I know how she is about boys, and it's a group thing. She's a really goody good so I don't worry too much. But the kid really screwed it up.

Mom is probably a little more open with her kids than I would be if she is aware of the sexual stuff maybe she just thinks it's a hormonal 13 year old boy. I really think a lot of his posts are for attention and to seem advanced.

KinaTina357's picture

I see your point. I really don't think SD would put up with anything that makes her uncomfortable since she has shut down boys in front of her entire choir (who she worships) for making passes at her. It's obvious she never wanted to go and had no intention of going, so I think that is her way of playing it safe.

As for the kid, who knows what's going on. It looks like he's friends with grandma and several other adults who share his last name. I wouldn't even have to say a word to SD about posting sexual stuff. Her grandparents would be all over that before I could even see it. If this kids whole family is accepting of his cussing and sexual posts, I'm thinking it's the family mentality. Don't get me wrong, I'm not letting her date the boy, I just don't think he's this perverted boy who will strong arm a girl into doing something she doesn't want to do. He actually seems like the dork trying to be cool.

over step's picture

I unfriended Puke (SD16) on FB a while back because of her cussing and vulgar posts. DH couldn't see them because she blocks him from seeing all that. I showed him the posts and told him I was unfriending her because of it.

kathc's picture

WTF? :jawdrop:

The first thing...HIS MOTHER knows what he posts and hadn't already gotten on his butt about it? That right there, nope, no way. His parents aren't doing their job so I doubt he's a decent kid.

Second, why did you accept his friend request?

KinaTina357's picture

Haha I guess out of surprise I just went for it. It seems to have worked out for the best that I did Wink

BSgoinon's picture

THAT is awesome!!!! I'm so glad you called him out, and I am even MORE glad his mom backed you up. I love it!

KinaTina357's picture

I was that girl in middle school that was absolutely appalled when I found out other kids were making out. Boys terrified me. I think now it just freaks me out even more because you can see crazy posts on social media... And they can see a lot more sexual material due to the internet.

jmh302's picture

When i was 13, 28 now...i lost my virginity. I dont think it is a matter of kids these days doing it more..they just talk about it more in "public"

When i was 13, there was no facebook or instagram but sex obviously still happened and porn was just as easy to get to as it is today. I didnt post about it but i wrote notes to my friends about it. We had a girl who was prego in my class and i had a friend have a miscarriage. This was 8th grade.

I still remember telling my friend i didnt think we did it right because it didnt hurt lol. I did it out of curiosity ..no pressure from my 14 yo bf. Or from friends. I wanted to see what the big deal was and i can tell you i was not impressed and didnt have sex again until a few years later.

I will say it happened mostly because we had the chance to. When we hung out usually his older teen sister was the only one there and he lived a short walk from the school. Or a few times his dad was home but we were in the basement and i never saw his dad at all.

So..always talk to the other parents before letting your kid go over someones house..never let young teens alone in a room! Give your child condoms because if they really want to, they will.

jmh302's picture

When i was 13, 28 now...i lost my virginity. I dont think it is a matter of kids these days doing it more..they just talk about it more in "public"

When i was 13, there was no facebook or instagram but sex obviously still happened and porn was just as easy to get to as it is today. I didnt post about it but i wrote notes to my friends about it. We had a girl who was prego in my class and i had a friend have a miscarriage. This was 8th grade.

I still remember telling my friend i didnt think we did it right because it didnt hurt lol. I did it out of curiosity ..no pressure from my 14 yo bf. Or from friends. I wanted to see what the big deal was and i can tell you i was not impressed and didnt have sex again until a few years later.

I will say it happened mostly because we had the chance to. When we hung out usually his older teen sister was the only one there and he lived a short walk from the school. Or a few times his dad was home but we were in the basement and i never saw his dad at all.

So..always talk to the other parents before letting your kid go over someones house..never let young teens alone in a room! Give your child condoms because if they really want to, they will.