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What a surprise - the inlaws stood us up again pt 3

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Mon, 07/13/2020 - 12:36pm

Blog hogging today. So DH can sometimes see his parents behavior is unfair and wrong. But then he will question it and keep asking well why would they? And do your parents treat them the same? I'm assuming looking for confirmation that they're behavior is really that bad (or maybe not that bad idk). 

Not sure how to break through that - especially when they here and there give him a little hope that they're going to act better.

What a surprise - the inlaws stood us up again pt 2

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Mon, 07/13/2020 - 10:37am

FIL messaged DH asking if he was mad at him and DH ended up calling and talking to him about the perceived favoritism. FIL ended up being tearful and apologetic even though he argued DHs points a little bit. He supposedly didnt know some of the stuff with MIL and SIL. He did give away though that SIL is bitter that we haven't been using her as a photographer (and I'm sure MIL is upset about it too). 

What a surprise - the inlaws stood us up again

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Sat, 07/11/2020 - 12:34pm

Short background- the inlaws stood us up for YDS first birthday a couple weeks ago because SD wasnt here and they only wanted to come up to celebrate SDs birthday later in the week. There was some back and forth on when they would come up and they finally agreed to come up today (when SD isnt here). FIL messaged DH this a little bit ago:

FIL: sorry its last minute but a buddy and I are headed to _____. Do you want to come with?

DH: I'm in _____right now. You guys arent coming up tonight? 

Vacations - how many go with only bios?

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Wed, 07/08/2020 - 7:37pm

My family has a timeshare type thing in Florida. Last time we went there we took SD and it was AWFUL. I'm sure at some point we will take her with again, but as of right now I'm planning a trip with only my bios. Myself and my family will be paying for most of it and I really want to go and actually be able to enjoy it over Christmas once while my bios are cute and little. DH would never have taken SD on vacation there himself, so I don't feel bad about not taking SD with because she's already gotten to go more than she would have with only her bioparents.

And yet more favoritism

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Wed, 07/08/2020 - 10:02am

Its SDs birthday (yay only 9 more years to go). SIL posted a long over the top happy birthday on Facebook to her. Complete with all the ridiculous "princess pictures" she took awhile back. She does not usually do that. MIL usually does, and she has not posted anything. Hmm. 

Did SIL post anything for her nephews birthdays? Or other SILs kids birthdays? Nope. 

Andddd now the blow up has happened pt 2

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Mon, 07/06/2020 - 11:49am

The inlaws ended up mailing the card that was so crucial to get to SD before her birthday. DH got an email showing it was in the mail (some service we apparently signed up for with mail forwarding when we moved). He never went and got the mail and neither did I. So SD wont get the card until after her birthday now. Dang. Did they send YDS card for his birthday that was a week before? No. 

Taking bets on if they actually show up this weekend or not. I'm betting last minute they'll decide not to.

Andddd now the blow up has happened.

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Tue, 06/30/2020 - 6:58pm

So after all the events of the previous blogs, MIL sends this message via FILs phone to DH:

"Hi, DH we have a card for SD, would be nice to get it to her before her birthday."

DH responds, obviously pissed because its 100% clear now that only SDs birthday matters to them and that MIL was trying to manipulate YDS birthday into being about SD:

"Have you considered the mail?"

FIL: "In person would be better"

DH: "MDS and YDS didnt get theirs in person or on time, what's going on?"

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