OSS held up by DH as the pinnacle of responsibility since he has a part time job. This is the almost 18yo who also cops out of his one extracurricular continually and does no hygiene activity without prompting. DS and YSS do not have jobs but are in multiple extracurriculars and participate fully in them. 

Last week BM had to go out of town and asked if the skids could stay here. Sure. Fine. 

This week DH and I have to go out of town overnight and DH suggested that DS watch the house and pets. 

Last night I walked into a room and caught a waft or something rancid. I figured it was  one of the skids who still had not showered. This morning I went to get coffee and got another powerful hit of the same smell. I can smell him from a couple feet away. Hm. This means he put on clothing that is so dirty it’s got a smell. 

I told DH. Why? Because the kid can be smelled from a distance and I’m a kind enough person that I don’t want the kid embarrassed by having a peer point it out at school. 

When I got home I talked with DS and he definitely is feeling picked on and mentioned a time I hadn't even thought was a time he was singled out. It was lack of inclusion but it stung, apparently.

My personal opinion is that DH does get upset when he looks at DS because DS is very similar to how DH was in HS, and his own kids are not and I think that stings. However, that's no reason to be pissy.

My body hurts, I'm not sleeping, etc., etc.

My DH, OSS, YSS, and even DS (all kids are late teens and being very much late-stage teenagers) are treating me like I can be ignored and talked down to unless they need something. And DH just seems to argue with me no matter what I say, even it is just to give a piece of information (like "I fed the dog"). I have been calling them on it but I'm tired of it. I was getting so frustrated, worrying about it, wondering what the hell I was doing, what bug was up their butts. I needed to do something different for me.